I challenge you to tell me there is nothing I can do.
I love - seriously LOVE - when the odds are stacked against me.
I don't know where the personality trait comes from, as my upbringing certainly wouldn't have been the one that made me so persistent.
My dad was pampered by his mom and stepfather.
When he needed money and he was short, they would give it to him.
He worked the bare minimum. He was a stockbroker in New York, got there at 9 a.m., left at 5 a.m., took the same train home every day.
Take the same train to Grand Central every morning. Play golf at the same time every Saturday and Sunday in spring, summer and fall and live a very pampered life.
There was no fighting, no tenacity in him. He just lived and died young and I feel like he never really, really lived.
You could see him from his upbringing, from his mother who pampered him and kept him, he was a mother's boy.
My mom… well, my mom was complicated to say the least. She taught me a lot of things about fighting, in the sense that you have to fight and never give up. But not in a positive way, because as a model she always gave up and wanted to leave the earth.
For those of you who are longtime readers, you know my mom attempted suicide when I was five and was in the car with her, which she decided to fuck 65 miles an hour in a parked car.
She has tried several other times in a subliminal and small scale. I always heard my mother quitting, not wanting to live, talking about not wanting to live, talking about life was not fair. So I didn't get this programming from my mom. I was like what I call programming. Firstly, seeing my mother doesn't really want to be here but yet my mother tells me that all my dreams are possible. So it was very, very confrontational, especially at a very young age.
Why am I telling you, why am I sharing all of this with you?
There are a few reasons.
The main reason is to tell you it doesn't matter what your fate is because you can change it. You can change your destiny to whatever you want your destiny to be. That's really what I'm trying to convey to you right now.
You see, your fate can be what it is. Some people will say that I knew on an energetic level that my mom was trying to end her life and I was going to be an unhappy bystander in this car wreck and end my life too, so maybe since that day , I am a survivor and still feel like I live mostly on borrowed time.
I do not know. I'm not really sitting there trying to analyze it, but if you think about it I'm playing with the house money at this point because this accident was really bad and I was lucky enough to go out, just like my mom.
So maybe I'm energetically at this point, where I have this fearless nature in me. I do not know what it is. But all I know is no matter what I do, I believe I can accomplish whatever I want.
I believe in endless possibilities. I don't believe in limitations, and I also believe in living life to the fullest every day. When I learn something new (and it's for all of you who have the "I quit" mentality and the "it doesn't work" mentality), I know it will take a lot of repetitions to get these lessons in my head.
Of course, it's frustrating as it can be when something doesn't come to you quickly enough. As a human being, this is what we want. We always want something to happen to us very quickly.
It's frustrating if we don't make money overnight in this new business.
It's frustrating if we don't lose weight right away when we diet.
It's frustrating and we all want this quick fix, this high.
But we have to get past that. The more I do, the more I listen, the more I listen, the more I do.
No matter what this habit is, it will be ingrained in me and I know I don't need to have it right away because it's an unrealistic expectation.
And unrealistic expectations are the reason people stop and start over all their lives.
Think about it and have a great day.
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