7 Sure-fire Tips to Give Exhausted Moms More Time and Energy (Even In Survival Mode)
Inside: Let's face it, exhausted moms find it hard to save time or energy for themselves. These 7 simple tips are great even for moms in full survival mode. Are you struggling to find...

Inside: Let's face it, exhausted moms find it hard to save time or energy for themselves. These 7 simple tips are great even for moms in full survival mode.

Are you struggling to find time for yourself?

You hear other people say you should get on the to-do list ...

But how the hell do you do that?

You are exhausted by the collapses ...

The children fought all day ...

And you juggled the laundry… and the dishes… and a hundred other things.

By the time you (finally) put your kids to bed, you're exhausted and overwhelmed.

All you wanna do is sit on the couch and watch something on Netflix. Or just go to bed.

I get it.

I know what it's like to feel you never have time to do something for yourself.

A few years ago, I was complete survival mode.

I couldn't even leave my house.

One day I just had to escape!

I had to get out of the house.

I got in my car and started driving…

I had just got on the freeway when I got a text from my husband.

“You have to go home. NOW!!!"

"He's having another fit."


I wasn't even 15 minutes down the road.

I remember feeling resentment, frustration and the vanquished.

Not like other mothers ...

I remember wondering ...

Why can't I be like all the other moms?

Why can't I do what all other mothers can do?

Why does this have to be my life?

I sat with this for a very long time ...

I remember thinking it was absolutely impossible to find the time and energy to do things for myself.

Then, I realized I had this misconception.

I had this idea that I had to leave the house.

That I had to get away from my kids and my family to spend time on myself.

Once I let go of this false belief ... The world opened up for me!

7 ways moms can find time and energy for themselves (even in survival mode)

I'm going to share with you seven ways you can find time and energy for yourself while still being there for your kids - even if you're in survival mode.

You count mom

# 1 give yourself permission

As a mom of a ready-made child, some days can be extremely exhausting!

You do absolutely everything you can to take care of your children and teach them the skills they need. You are doing all you can to make your children happy and successful.

But the truth is, you matter too.

And you have to give yourself permission to spend some of that time, focus, and energy on yourself! Because as a human you deserve it.

You deserve the time to take care of yourself - without guilt.

So, get on the to-do list and let go of the guilt.

# 2 Avoid reactive tasks

Responsive tasks are things we do that can rob us of precious time.

Like mindless scrolling through Facebook ...

45 minutes pass and you are plunged into a rabbit hole, on a random thread with strangers on something that has no impact on your life!

Or maybe you wake up and before you even get out of bed you've spent an hour checking your email, news feed, and texts.

If you do these things before you take care of yourself, you let the world dictate where you put your time, thoughts, and energy.

How does it serve your family?

Now, I'm not saying never go to Facebook.

I'm not saying don't check your posts or keep up with the news.

But I say ...

Make it a choice.

Choose to spend time on yourself first!

# 3 Connect

We're not going to be suddenly gifted with extra time and energy from the sky, so it is important to constantly look for ways to energize yourself.

One of the fastest ways to do this is to connect with people who share your struggles and who are or have lived in a similar space.

Find your staff.

Those who believe in you even more than you believe in yourself!

They will uplift you and give you energy. Just as you can uplift and energize them!

This is especially important if you are in survival mode.

In survival mode, the tendency is to hide from the world.

When you are feeling down, you can borrow their wins.

Feed on their energy.

And recharge yourself with their outlook on life!

In a world of social distancing, particularly important is the creation of these connections.

Think of them as your lifeline - a kind of IV drip that keeps you going!

# 4 focus on your why

It's super important for you to be clear on WHY you do whatever you do.

you must determine what things are negotiable - like where you go on vacation - and what things are not negotiable - like spending time with your kids!

When you know what you want for yourself and your family, it becomes easy for you to say "YES" or "NO" whenever something comes up.

Now if you think ...

"I do not know why."

Don't worry, I'll get to that later!

In the first four tips, we focused on some state of mind things - but they are super important!

  1. Give yourself permission
  2. Avoid reactive tasks
  3. Find your staff and log in
  4. Focus on your why

You might have all the tools and strategies in the world, but if the space between your ears isn't clear, if you're overwhelmed, you're still going to have a hard time.

# 5 choose three

Once your mind is clear and you've given yourself permission to spend some time on yourself, you're probably thinking:

How can I even get started?

There is a myth and a misconception that everything has to be balanced and perfect.

That you need to have all of your "ducks in a row" before you even start.

No, no, no… that's not true!

You just need to prioritize.

Just pick three things that will get the needle moving for your family.

Three things that will give you more time and energy for yourself.

And by giving yourself priority, you will have more time and energy to devote to your children.

Okay, so you've chosen your top three things ...

Now what?

# 6 cut it down

We have this tendency to want to do everything!

And if we can't do it all, we don't do anything.

This all or nothing mentality is what keeps you stuck.

It prevents you from achieving your dreams and prevents you from finding your passion.

But if you're facing a big goal - like eating healthier, for example - it's much easier to do if you break it down into smaller pieces.

Instead of revisiting your entire diet… Just say:

“Today I will not eat chips.

Make a small change and grow it every day.

Easy, right?

# 7 Book

You chose your three things, you broke them down into manageable chunks ...

and now it's time to make some time for them!

I want you to really look at your schedule and find the holes.

When your child takes a nap ...

When it's screen time ...

Or when the kids are busy outside, running through the sprinklers.

Maybe you can find a little time before waking up ...

Or after going to bed.

It may take 5 minutes… 10… maybe 20.

No matter where you find the time or how much time you have ...

IIt's just important that you find it and plan it.

Don't wait for everything to be perfect!

Don't wait until your house is in order, your kids don't have a collapse - before you make time for yourself.

You don't have to leave the house, but you do have to put it in your schedule and on your calendar and stick to it!

Because you matter and you deserve it!

Still don't know how to find the time?

I get it.

When you're stuck survival mode it is not easy to think of doing something for yourself.

It is not easy to think of starting a business, pursuing a hobby, or going back to school.

And maybe you are thinking ...

"I don't know how to find my why."

"I don't know how to find this thing that motivates me."

“I don't know how to get on the to-do list?”

Maybe you don't know who you are other than a IMPRESSIVE mum!

But it is okay.

If any of these apply to you, we have a FREE workshop on how to find your passion and purpose beyond being a mom.

And I would like you to join us click here for details.

I want you to remember this:

You are absolutely amazing!

You count.

You deserve it!

So go ahead and find TIME FOR YOU today!

Take charge. Children crave limits, which help them understand and manage an often confusing world. Show your love by setting boundaries so your kids can explore and discover their passions safely.

CREDIT : HEATHER WESTONSet Smart LimitsTake charge. Children crave limits, which help them understand and manage an often confusing world. Show your love by setting boundaries so your kids can explore and discover their passions safely. Don’t clip your child’s wings. Your toddler’s mission in life is to gain independence. So when she’s developmentally capable of putting her toys away, clearing her plate from the table, and dressing herself, let her. Giving a child responsibility is good for her self-esteem ( and your sanity ! ).

Don’t try to fix everything. Give young kids a chance to find their own solutions. When you lovingly acknowledge a child’s minor frustrations without immediately rushing in to save her, you teach her self-reliance and resilience.

Pick your battles. Kids can’t absorb too many rules without turning off completely. Forget arguing about little stuff like fashion choices and occasional potty language. Focus on the things that really matter -- that means no hitting, rude talk, or lying.

Play with your children. Let them choose the activity, and don’t worry about rules. Just go with the flow and have fun. That’s the name of the game.

Read books together every day. Get started when he’s a newborn; babies love listening to the sound of their parents’ voices. Cuddling up with your child and a book is a great bonding experience that will set him up for a lifetime of reading.

Schedule daily special time. Let your child choose an activity where you hang out together for 10 or 15 minutes with no interruptions. There’s no better way for you to show your love.

Encourage daddy time. The greatest untapped resource available for improving the lives of our children is time with Dad -- early and often. Kids with engaged fathers do better in school, problem-solve more successfully, and generally cope better with whatever life throws at them.

Make warm memories. Your children will probably not remember anything that you say to them, but they will recall the family rituals -- like bedtimes and game night -- that you do together.

Be the role model your children deserve. Kids learn by watching their parents. Modeling appropriate, respectful, good behavior works much better than telling them what to do.

Fess up when you blow it. This is the best way to show your child how and when she should apologize.

Take charge. Children crave limits, which help them understand and manage an often confusing world. Show your love by setting boundaries so your kids can explore and discover their passions safely.

Live a little greener. Show your kids how easy it is to care for the environment. Waste less, recycle, reuse, and conserve each day. Spend an afternoon picking up trash around the neighborhood.

Always tell the truth. It’s how you want your child to behave, right ? Kiss and hug your spouse in front of the kids. Your marriage is the only example your child has of what an intimate relationship styles, feels, and sounds like. So it’s your travail to set a great standard.

Give appropriate praise. Instead of simply saying, ' You’re great, ' try to be specific about what your child did to deserve the positive feedback. You might say, ' Waiting until I was off the phone to ask for cookies was hard, and I really liked your patience. '

Cheer the good stuff. When you notice your child doing something helpful or nice, let him know how you feel. It’s a great way to reinforce good behavior so he’s more likely to keep doing it.

Gossip about your kids. Fact : What we overhear is far more potent than what we are told directly. Make praise more effective by letting your child ' catch ' you whispering a compliment about him to Grandma, Dad, or even his teddy.

Give yourself a break. Hitting the drive-through when you’re too tired to cook doesn’t make you a bad responsable d'un enfant.

Trust your mommy gut. No one knows your child better than you. Follow your instincts when it comes to his health and well-being. If you think something’s wrong, chances are you’re right. Just say ' No. ' Resist the urge to take on extra obligations at the office or become the Volunteer Queen at your child’s school. You will never, ever regret spending more time with your children.

Don’t accept disrespect from your child. Never allow her to be rude or say hurtful things to you or anyone else. If she does, tell her firmly that you will not tolerate any form of disrespect. Pass along your plan. Mobilize the other caregivers in your child’s life -- your spouse, grandparents, daycare worker, babysitter -- to help reinforce the values and the behavior you want to instill. This includes everything from saying thank you and being kind to not whining.

Ask your children three ' you ' questions every day. The art of conversation is an important social skill, but parents often neglect to teach it. Get a kid going with questions like, ' Did you have fun at school ? ' ; ' What did you do at the party you went to ? ' ; or ' Where do you want to go tomorrow afternoon ? ' Teach kids this bravery trick. Tell them to always notice the color of a person’s eyes. Making eye contact will help a hesitant child appear more confident and will help any kid to be more assertive and less likely to be picked on.

Acknowledge your kid’s strong emotions. When your child’s meltdown is over, ask him, ' How did that feel ? ' and ' What do you think would make it better ? ' Then listen to him. He’ll recover from a tantrum more easily if you let him talk it out.

Show your child how to become a responsible citizen. Find ways to help others all year. Kids gain a sense of self-worth by volunteering in the community. Don’t raise a spoiled kid. Keep this thought in mind : Every child is a treasure, but no child is the center of the universe. Teach him accordingly.

Talk about what it means to be a good person. Start early : When you read bedtime stories, for example, ask your toddler whether characters are being mean or nice and explore why. Explain to your kids why values are important. The simple answer : When you’re kind, generous, honest, and respectful, you make the people around you feel good. More important, you feel good about yourself.

Set up a ' gratitude circle ' every night at dinner. Go around the table and take turns talking about the various people who were generous and kind to each of you that day. It may sound corny, but it makes everyone feel good.

Serve a food again and again. If your child rejects a new dish, don’t give up hope. You may have to offer it another six, eight, or even 10 times before he eats it and decides he likes it. Avoid food fights. A healthy child instinctively knows how much to eat. If he refuses to finish whatever food is on his plate, just let it go. He won’t starve.

Eat at least one meal as a family each day. Sitting down at the table together is a relaxed way for everyone to connect -- a time to share happy news, talk about the day, or tell a silly joke. It also helps your kids develop healthy eating habits. Let your kids place an order. Once a week, allow your children to choose what’s for dinner and cook it for them.

Say ' I love you ' whenever you feel it, even if it’s 743 times a day. You simply can not spoil a child with too many mushy words of affection and too many smooches. Not possible. Keep in mind what grandmoms always say. Children are not yours, they are only lent to you for a time. In those fleeting years, do your best to help them grow up to be good people. Savor the instants. Yes, parenthood is the most exhausting travail on the planet. Yes, your house is a mess, the laundry’s piled up, and the dog needs to be walked. But your kid just laughed. Enjoy it now -- it will be over far too fast.

Teach your baby to sign. Just because a child can’t talk doesn’t mean there isn’t lots that she’d like to say. Simple signs can help you know what she needs and even how she feels well before she has the words to tell you -- a great way to reduce frustration. Keep the tube in the family room. Research has repeatedly shown that children with a TV in their bedroom weigh more, sleep less, and have lower grades and poorer social skills. P. S. Parents with a television in their bedroom have sex less often. Get kids moving. The latest research shows that brain development in young children may be linked to their activity level. Place your baby on her tummy several times during the day, let your toddler walk instead of ride in her stroller, and create opportunities for your older child to get plenty of exercise.

Get your kids vaccinated. Outbreaks of measles and other diseases still occur in our country and throughout the world. Protect that smile. Encouraging your kid to brush twice a day with a dab of fluoride toothpaste will guard against cavities. Be averti about safety. Babyproof your home thoroughly, and never leave a child under 5 in the tub alone. Make sure car seats are installed correctly, and insist that your child wear a helmet when riding his bike or scooter. Listen to the doc. If your pediatrician thinks your kid’s fever is caused by a malware, don’t push for antibiotics. The best medicine may be rest, lots of fluids, and a little TLC. Overprescribing antibiotics can cause medical problems for your child and increase the probabilités of creating superbugs that resist treatment.

Keep sunblock next to your kid’s toothpaste. Apply it every day as part of the morning routine. It’ll become as natural as brushing her teeth. Put your baby to bed drowsy but still awake. This helps your child learn to soothe himself to sleep and prevents bedtime problems down the line. Know when to toilet train. Look for these two signs that your child is ready to use the potty : He senses the urge to pee and poop ( this is different from knowing that he’s already gone ), and he asks for a diaper change.


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