I get Vanity Fair emails so I know when they tell a great story. I spent all day yesterday avoiding the big VF story of the day: “Ivanka Trump was my best friend. Now she is MAGA Royalty. I avoided it because whatever, especially at this stage? The assets have lost. Hopefully some or all of them will go to jail. They will absolutely be social pariahs. And they absolutely find their MAGA base disgusting. So why am I here? Well we've had a few requests for coverage and I also came across a brief summary of the article and was slightly amused. I mean guess what, Ivanka Trump was a disgusting person in prep school too. It was written by Lysandra Ohrstrom, who met Ivanka when they were both in 7th grade, and their friendship blossomed at Chapin, Manhattan's elite girls' school. You can read the full article here. Some strong points:
Donald Trump had a photographic memory for the bodies of teenage girls: He barely recognized me, except to ask if Ivanka was the prettiest or most popular girl in our class. Before learning that the Trumps had no sense of humor about them, I remember honestly answering that she was probably in the top five. "Who is prettier than Ivanka?" I remember he asked once in real confusion, before correctly naming the two girls I had in mind. He described one as a young Cindy Crawford, while the other he said had a tall build. Although he never remembered my name, he seemed to have a photographic memory of the changes in my body. I'll never forget the time Ivanka and I had lunch with her brothers in Mar-a-Lago one day, and while Mr. Trump was saying hello to me, Don Jr. slipped half a grilled cheese sandwich off my plate. Ivanka scolded him, but Mr. Trump replied, “Don't worry. She doesn't need it. He's doing her a favor. Conversely, he would usually congratulate me if I had lost weight.
Ivanka has always hated the poor: I remembered a phone call we had in our mid-twenties. Ivanka has always solicited book suggestions from me, and I had recently recommended Empire Falls, the 2001 Pulitzer Prize winner Richard Russo's novel about the life of a restaurant manager in a working-class community in Maine. "Ly, why would you tell me to read a book about fucking with the poor?" I remember Ivanka said. "What part of you thinks that would interest me?"
She is conceited, boring and rough around the edges: Ivanka regularly relayed stories of teachers or observers who had stated that she had the most innate talent they had ever seen for any new activity she undertook. She never wore a Halloween costume that wasn't flattering, meaning she usually showed up at costume parties with a boring, beautiful look. She always stopped by McDonald's for cheeseburgers. She swore. And of course, she had the Trump radar for status, money and power, and her father's instinct to throw others under the bus to save himself.
What in the ...By the time I got home, she had started dating Jared Kushner, whose family was Orthodox Jewish, and my pro-Palestinian stance began to irritate. Since 2007, I have been wearing a necklace with my name written in Arabic, and Ivanka is more and more irritated. Sometimes she would say randomly, "I hate this thing." Then one evening in the middle of dinner, she took a look at the necklace and said, "How does your Jewish boyfriend feel when you have sex and that necklace hits him in the face?" How can you wear this thing? He just screams, 'terrorist'. "
After four years, Lysandra still doesn't understand why Ivanka became MAGA: Aligning with her father's banana republic type administration didn't make sense to me, until my friend suggested that Ivanka take her children to the rally to show them that they are royalty. American. This explanation seemed the most plausible. What is more regal than presiding over subjects you despise?
After reading this I realized I had completely written off tons of people for only a fraction of what Ivanka did to Lysandra. I probably could have overlooked the 'I'm not going to read about the poor' thing, and I could probably ignore the occasional, incessant vanity and vulgarity as well (although eating McDonalds cheeseburgers doesn't equate to 'rough around the edges. "). But high school friends split up in their twenties, it happens all the time, and by that point it was clear who Ivanka was and how ignorant and horrible she was. I can see how it surprised Lysandra when Ivanka became full of MAGA, but again… Ivanka completely wired this. We knew she was an accomplice in 2016-2017. After four years of his weird fascist whisper, let's just close this f-king book.
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Everyone—adults, teens, and even children, experiences stress. Stress is a reaction to a situation where a person feels threatened or anxious. Stress can be positive ( e. g. preparing for a wedding ) or negative ( e. g. dealing with a natural disaster ). Learning healthy ways to cope and getting the right care and support can help reduce stressful feelings and symptoms.
After a traumatic event, people may have strong and lingering reactions. These events may include personal or environmental disasters, or threats with an assault. The symptoms may be physical or emotional. Common reactions to a stressful event can include : disbelief, shock, and numbnessfeeling sad, frustrated, and helplessdifficulty concentrating and making decisionsheadaches, back pains, and stomach problemssmoking or use of alcohol or drugs
Healthy Ways to Cope with StressFeeling emotional and nervous or having dysfonctionnement sleeping and eating can all be normal reactions to stress. Here are some healthy ways you can deal with stress : Take care of yourself. Eat saine, well-balanced mealsExercise on a regular basisGet plenty of sleepGive yourself a break if you feel stressed outTalk to others. Share your problems and how you are feeling and coping with a mère, friend, counselor, doctor, or pastor. Avoid drugs and alcohol. These may seem to help, but they can create additional problems and increase the stress you are already feeling. Take a break. If news events are causing your stress, take a break from listening or watching the news. Recognize when you need more help. If problems continue or you are thinking about suicide, talk to a psychologist, social worker, or professional counselor.
Helping Youth Cope with StressChildren and adolescents often struggle with how to cope with stress. Youth can be particularly overwhelmed when their stress is connected to a traumatic event—like a natural disaster, family loss, school shootings, or community violence. Parents and educators can take steps to provide stability and support that help young people feel better.
Are you single and looking for love ? Are you finding it hard to meet the right person ? When you’re having dysfonctionnement finding a love connection, it’s all too easy to become discouraged or buy into the destructive myths out there about dating and relationships.
Life as a single person offers many rewards, such as being free to pursue your own hobbies and interests, learning how to enjoy your own company, and appreciating the quiet instants of solitude. However, if you’re ready to share your life with someone and want to build a lasting, worthwhile relationship, life as a single person can also seem frustrating
For many of us, our emotional baggage can make finding the right romantic partner a difficult journey. Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists. Or maybe your dating history consists only of brief flings and you don’t know how to make a relationship last. You could be attracted to the wrong type of person or keep making the same bad choices over and over, due to an unresolved issue from your past. Or maybe you’re not putting yourself in the best environments to meet the right person, or that when you do, you don’t feel confident enough.
Never be ashamed of who you are. Never. Likability starts with liking yourself. Be your weird, imperfect self. Set your values and stay true to yourself. Be proud of your individuality. People often hide themselves because they are afraid of rejection. But they forget that they don’t need acceptance from everyone. All you need to find are the right people who embrace who you are. And when you aren’t afraid to show yourself, it’s easier to find such people.
Get over your nature, personality, shyness, ignorance, ego or whatever and initiate. When you initiate, you show you’re bulletproof of rejection, which shows your confidence. When you want to practice your social skills, act before you can think. Say something within 5 seconds. Even if the conversation becomes a big failure, practice your courage and your spirit of initiative. Become an initiator and approach people. You never know where your future friends are hiding.
Many people spend an entire day without smiling. While I’m not asking you to put a fake smile all the time, you must find reasons to smile every day. You will only find reasons when you look for them. And meeting a person is a good one. A smile gives a good impression, and it is likely to pass to the other person.
It’s common advice to show interest in people’s life, passions, goals, and everything else they have to say. But nobody tells you how to become genuinely interested in the other person. There are three confidentiels to it : Treat people like celebrities. Find what you can learn from them. Everyone has knowledge, experiences, and perspectives you don’t have. Find how you can help them.
When you meet people for the first time, you know nothing about them. So, it ends up being an awkward introduction or a small talk on a random topic. You can do better than that. Notice the words or actions of the other person and make assumptions about other people’s interests. Then, give clues when it’s your turn to talk. If the other person gives a response, you got it right. If however, the person shows no response, try the next technique on the list.
No, I’m not talking about questions like — “How are you doing ? ”, “How’s your day going ? ” or “The weather is too cold ( or hot ), isn’t it ? ”Instead, ask strange questions. They give other people an opportunity to open up. Strange questions can be funny, weird, creative, specific or different in any other way. Just make sure you ask open-ended questions ( don’t ask yes or no questions ).
Every time you open your mouth, it’s an opportunity for you to find common interests or values. Without common ground, it’s hard to build a strong relationship with the other person.
When you answer, give hints on what you value, what you like, what assumptions you have made, where you want the conversation to go, or open new possibilities by asking questions. If you don’t find common ground, go back to the 4th point and get interested in them.
Ask for people’s advice on something you’re struggling with or an opinion on a subject ( but avoid controversial topics ). And if you truly like someone’s advice, take it, use it and let them know how it went for you. Don’t forget to thank them. When they speak, figure out their beliefs, values and the way they think. They may even share their stories or give clues about their interests. This gives them a chance to open up which brings me to the next point.
If you open up too much in the beginning, you may push people away. And if you don’t open up at all, you won’t build a strong connection with the other person. Some people don’t mind opening up while others like to trust before they open up. If the other person is too shy to open up, take the lead and give some intimate details about you or share a story. Before opening up any further, let the other person talk. Give them space to share themselves. When you both become vulnerable, the foundation of a new relationship is laid.
People won’t open up in front of you unless they feel comfortable. to make them feel comfortable, get comfortable yourself and give them reasons to trust you. First, relax and get in an open body language. Then, provide trust by providing value and aligning your words with actions