Meetings are risky.
It can lead to heartache, anger, sadness, and all kinds of feelings of rejection.
Feelings deeply rooted in our subconscious since childhood wounds.
It can trigger us in a way that leaves us wondering why we even care about seeking love in the first place when it sometimes seems so difficult.
The most serious risk: and if that doesn't work.
But that's not the only risk.
There is another risk: the risk of do not trying.
How is do not try a risk?
You risk settling down and continuing in the same direction in the same way, wondering about other paths and possibilities, believing that it is as good as it can be when something deep inside your soul longs for. intimacy and love.
Whether you get down there and date or not, there is a risk anyway.
And sometimes going out, for what might be the hundredth time, is actually the least risky thing to do.
Loving yourself through disappointments and dating grief is essential to taking the risk of putting your heart in danger.
Lack of self-love is the fundamental problem most of us face every day.
We fight all day.
We get mad at ourselves for saying the wrong thing, messing up in a social situation, drinking too much alcohol, having a one night stand, and so on. We are so hard on ourselves, and that harshness has worsened over time.
It affects everything from the type of people we date to how we like in our relationships.
It makes us less happy, anxious, stuck, dissatisfied in relationships, more likely to seek out junk food or distractions to comfort us.
If we could give each other love it would start to heal it all.
Everything could change.
You could take risks and love with all your heart and be peaceful in a healthy way during trials and tribulations.
- Pause. Allow yourself to feel any sadness, frustration, anger, or anxiety that you might feel as a result of a disappointment or heartache. Don't think about it, just let yourself feel the physical sensations in your body. Notice these physical sensations rather than running away from them. Give it a few moments.
- Think of someone you love very much. It can be a child, parent, sibling or friend. Imagine them going through a difficult time and send them love from your heart to theirs, asking them to feel better.
- Turn all those slimy loving feelings on you and feel it as a kind of emotional ointment, healing wounds that need healing. It can be a bit awkward at first, but do your best to give yourself that love.
Do this for yourself all the time. Put reminder notes everywhere!
Don't hold back from that kind of self-esteem anymore.
This is what most of us need, and it will be what allows you to overcome disappointments and grief.
With so much love