May 15 He hasn't texted me in a week, what should I do?
Do you check your phone every 5 minutes wondering if you are going to receive an SMS from it? Time can seem like an eternity when you're waiting for a text from a particular person. 3 days pass and you start to wonder, is this something i did? Is he done with me? Was he hit by a bus or maybe caught coronavirus?
I understand you. It's hard to live in a state of not knowing when to call, or what to do while waiting.
To make an assessment, let's take a look at a few scenarios where he might not have texted you in a week:
Have you just met or are chatting on dating apps
If you've met someone on a dating app and haven't met them in real life, chances are they are talking to a bunch of other people.
If this is someone you have just started talking to (or have just met once in real life), then they are probably a) not very invested yet b) busy with life. It's easy to forget to text someone when you barely know them and have little emotional investment.
You had a few dates and now he's gone silent
Maybe you've been on a few dates, he was usually initiating texts and then suddenly he went silent. It's likely he lost interest for some reason. He might not feel compatible or it might be something you did. Or he might just be dating other women and he's more focused on another girl than you.
Alternatively, he might have things going on in his own life. He may have had a ton of work on him or he might not be feeling well.
You are dating / are in a relationship and have had a drama
Maybe you had an argument or distrusted him too much or attacked something he said. In this case, he might have gone silent because he needs a bit of space to reset and stay away from the drama. If he feels like everything is going to explode again, he is more inclined to stay away. The worse the fight, the longer it will take for him to respond to you.
Bottom line: he is usually busy / distracted, or he is not very invested / interested.
Sometimes life gets in the way. Sometimes men are very stressed at work, they are sick, they have family problems, or they are traveling on business. Or maybe they have a hectic social life and prefer to hit you up when they know they have time to set up a date and see you properly. A week is a long time, but it is not an incredibly long period either.
If you've just started seeing each other, he might be dating multiple girls or talking to multiple girls, so he may be juggling a few at a time.
In this case, you are simply not (yet) a priority. In the beginning, it's important not to fall too hard too quickly, because people have busy lives and it often takes several dates for a man to feel invested. You might become a priority in the future, but not now.
If, however, you've been seeing each other for a while (or even in a relationship) and you've gone from talking often to not talking at all for a week, this could be an indicator that something is going on. Usually, interested men will contact you from time to time if they are interested.
Maybe he doesn't really feel the spark anymore and just doesn't know how to tell you, so he is hoping he can let things die out. It may be something about you that he's not sure about, or it may be that he doesn't really want a commitment just yet.
The is another possibility, which is not common but has happened to me and my friend.
The guy might feel a little worried about contacting you!
Yes it's rare, but sometimes guys are shy to reach out too. A friend of mine met a guy and didn't hear from him but a few days went by and she texted him because she left her earrings at his house.
They are now a couple, and she said if she hadn't reached out, they wouldn't have seen each other again. He said he assumed she probably regretted hooking up with him because she was drunk and therefore too nervous to reach out in case he was rejected.
There are a plethora of possibilities that a guy might not text you in a week, but the question is, what do you do about it?
You really have two options, text him to find out or leave it.
Leave it and let it text you
Now let's look at the first option.
Some may argue that dating is all about creating space for you to miss the guy.
As one of my male friends put it: “You have to see the long game… it's about controlling your urges and focusing on the end goal. These are the small victories. At the beginning, it's really about showing that you care the least about yourself.
Not everyone agrees with this statement. In an ideal world, relationships shouldn't be power struggles or battles for control. They should be two people just enjoying each other's company.
But it is well known that men love the hunt, especially at the beginning. In fact, we're all wired in one way or another to want what we can't have. They like to feel that they have "won" you over and claimed you as a prize.
If you don't text them, you stay in control and also avoid possible rejection. If you aren't dealing with rejection well, this option might be the best for you.
When he finally reaches out, you'll know he wanted to to text and talk to you.
See… the problem with him first is that it's hard to know if he's just responding out of obligation, or if he's genuinely interested.
But the whole concept of "hunting" really depends on the type of man. If he's a super confident alpha guy or a gamer, this is probably the option you want to go for. If he's a little more shy or insecure, then he might need a little help.
If you have been in a relationship or have been seeing someone for a while and have been too 'dramatic' or had a fight, then it might be best to let them reach out when they are ready. . Time heals and people often like to retreat to their caves. Give him some space and let him reach out when he's ready.
When men are stressed out about work or having a hard time, sometimes they prefer to have space. Women like to reach out to friends and chat, while men often want to lick their wounds and think.
If you are feeling very anxious ...
Text him. So many dating experts and forums say you shouldn't text a guy because men like to hunt. But if it causes you so much anxiety, sometimes take action, any action, better than doing nothing at all.
If you're the type of person who has sleepless nights and checks your phone every 5 minutes, message the guy and see what happens. Have no expectations. Don't be passively aggressive that you haven't heard from him or tell him "I guess I was a ghost ..."
Be cool, calm and airy. You can draw simple text like, "Hey, how's your day going?" or send a cute photo of something that reminded you. Even a funny meme, if you usually send memes. The goal is to send a text with minimal investment, strike up a conversation and see where it leads.
Don't pressure the guy to hang out or ask him about where he's been. Be a valuable woman.
If he doesn't respond, leave it. If he answers but is super quiet and doesn't say much, then maybe it's time to realize he's not that interested.
However, if he's excited to hear from you or wants to chat, then maybe he just needed a little push. It is important not to make a habit of always initiate but from time to time it's OK.
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Life as a single person offers many rewards, such as being free to pursue your own hobbies and interests, learning how to enjoy your own company, and appreciating the quiet instants of solitude. However, if you’re ready to share your life with someone and want to build a lasting, worthwhile relationship, life as a single person can also seem frustrating.
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The first step to finding love is to reassess some of the misconceptions about dating and relationships that may be preventing you from finding lasting love.
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Women and men feel similar things but sometimes express their feelings differently, often according to society’s conventions. But both men and women experience the same core emotions such as sadness, anger, fear, and joy.
Love is rarely static, but that doesn’t mean love or physical attraction is doomed to fade over time. As we age, both men and women have fewer sexual hormones, but emotion often influences passion more than hormones, and sexual volonté can become stronger over time
When we start looking for a long-term partner or enter into a romantic relationship, many of us do so with a predetermined set of ( often unrealistic ) expectations—such as how the person should look and behave, how the relationship should progress, and the roles each partner should fulfill. These expectations may be based on your family history, influence of your peer group, your past experiences, or even ideals portrayed in movies and TV shows. Retaining many of these unrealistic expectations can make any potential partner seem inadequate and any new relationship feel disappointing.
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Build a genuine connectionThe dating game can be nerve wracking. It’s only natural to worry about how you’ll come across and whether or not your date will like you. But no matter how shy or socially awkward you feel, you can overcome your nerves and self-consciousness and forge a great connection.
Focus outward, not inward. to engagement first-date nerves, focus your attention on what your date is saying and doing and what’s going on around you, rather than on your internal thoughts. Staying fully present in the moment will help take your mind off worries and insecurities.
Be curious. When you’re truly curious about someone else’s thoughts, feelings, experiences, stories, and opinions, it shows—and they’ll like you for it. You’ll come across as far more attractive and interesting than if you spend your time trying to promote yourself to your date. And if you aren’t genuinely interested in your date, there’s little point in pursuing the relationship further.
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Pay attention. Make an effort to truly listen to the other person. By paying close attention to what they say, do, and how they interact, you’ll quickly get to know them. Little things go a long way, such as remembering someone’s preferences, the stories they’ve told you, and what’s going on in their life.
Put your smartphone away. You can’t truly pay attention or forge a genuine connection when you’re multitasking. Nonverbal communication—subtle gestures, locutions, and other visual cues—tell us a lot about another person, but they’re easy to miss unless you’re tuned in.
Online dating, singles events, and matchmaking services like speed dating are enjoyable for some people, but for others they can feel more like high-pressure travail interviews. And whatever dating experts might tell you, there is a big difference between finding the right career and finding lasting love.