Warning: this one is everywhere. Flow of consciousness. No filter.
A I have had bouts of childhood fever lately. I don't know if it's my age (37) or the fact that everything we had planned for this year didn't come to fruition. I haven't had a baby fever since trying to get pregnant with Kaitlyn so it was crazy. I want to share this because I get messages asking how I knew I was done with the kids and the truth is I don't think I'll ever be that woman who "felt over". Ironically, our family feels complete and I love our tight-knit unit of four, which makes me assume it's just a matter of age; my body checks it to ask - are you sure you're done?
I know we don't have any babies anymore so this has spread into puppy fever as well. Sigh… I guess I just want something more to feed? Maybe I should buy a plant. Or a goldfish? 😉
OF THEM Grief is still present in my time. I intended to read books about grief, but I didn't. So maybe this is normal? But I think about my father a lot, several times a day, even if it is only a fleeting thought. If I mention it out loud my eyes will tear in an instant, but if it's right in my head I can deal with it better.
In many ways, I still find it wild that he's really gone. Is it a denial? Again, I don't know. I still can't fathom the fact that such an important man in my life from the minute I was born isn't a phone call away. Sometimes it feels like he's just traveling and will be back at some point.
I've had a few requests to write about bereavement, but I don't feel like I have much to say. I'm still in the depths of treatment and don't see that changing anytime soon. Strangely, I feel like I'm doing fine emotionally (although this passage probably doesn't sound like that), but I'm still learning to live in this new world and really wonder if I'll ever make it to a place of acceptance. peaceful and understanding where the thought of what he's had to go through doesn't immediately make me start hyperventilating.
I find my peace in nature. Hawksbill Trail was magnificent.
THREE I have spent many hours creating gift guides for girls ages and am happy to share them with you. I post them on Sunday. Hope they will be useful for your vacation shopping.
I also wanted to thank you for supporting me by shopping through my affiliate links throughout the year. I drastically reduced the number of sponsored posts I take because, unless one brand is really right, it just doesn't feel right to me. The affiliate links and advertisements that appear on my site are my main source of income and I really appreciate your support, whether through shopping, interacting with my content, sharing my content or simply kind words you send me. They all help so much.
I'm in the process of renaming and redesigning for A Healthy Slice of Life and can't wait for its launch (which looks January-ish right now). At the same time, my goal for 2021 is to reduce my number of ads because I know they can disrupt the reading experience. I have a few new projects / products in the works that I can't wait to create that I hope will be of use to you and allow me to reduce the ads. Now I'm on a tangent but what I wanted to say is thank you for being a friend, for reading and for supporting me. It means a lot to me and does not go unnoticed.
FOUR Weighing the risks of what's okay and what's not right now is mentally exhausting. With the end of football, the girls and I are quite isolated. They do weekly (private) music lessons, but other than that, we're at home. However, David works in hospitals so I guess at some point we'll all be exposed (if we haven't already).
I feel like I'm always trying to weigh the risks and the rewards for how to live life now and find Mike Rowe's blog post (I recommend reading the full text) Put my thoughts into words better than I could - “Somewhere between 'Safety Firsters' and 'Covid-Hoaxers', there has to be a sensible approach to living in a dangerous world that will end up killing us all."
Judgment in the online world is also stronger than usual. The comments and DMs that I'm sure no one would call face to face sometimes really took up some of my energy. I use it as a reminder to be aware of what and who I surround myself with in real life and online. What we consume is more powerful than what we attribute, so I work on setting boundaries, protecting my energy, and being responsible for the energy I bring into spaces and to others.
FIVE Let's end this on a good note! With the next week being Thanksgiving, I focused even more on gratitude. In a year where we've all lost so much, I think it's even more important to focus on what we have, the big things and the small things. I saw a friend post her list on Facebook the other day and it inspired me to do the same.
- I am grateful to have a strong, loving and united family.
- I am grateful for my health and that I can wake up in the morning to a new day.
- I am grateful to be married to my best friend.
- I am grateful to be home with my daughters and to spend our days learning and living together.
- I am grateful to have a home that is warm both in temperature and in feel.
- I am thankful for Madeline is movingworkouts that kept us going strong and active without a gym.
- I am grateful to my kids for sleeping and I like to wake up early.
- I am grateful for the Christmas movies, in particular those for young children that my daughters always love.
- I am grateful to be able to give. From Feed NC to the floods in Honduras to rebuilding The Batch House, I'm grateful that when I see a need we want to contribute to, we have the means to do it.
- I am grateful for the good food.
- I am grateful for the beautiful weather we have had this year.
- I am grateful for the cheerful people who bring light, positivity and laughter to my world.
- I am grateful for the lessons I learn and the personal growth I experience each year, even with gray hair and wrinkles on my forehead. Growing old is a privilege and I will continue to remember it.
Heavy message for a Friday, eh? Thanks for listening to my solo therapy session. Having a space to write my thoughts like this will always be the reason blogging is the heart and soul of everything I do. I hope you write your own gratitude list and that it inspires you, like me, to keep going, to keep loving and to keep doing the next good thing. Have a good weekend, my friends.
It’s easy to get confused when it comes to health and nutrition. Even qualified experts often seem to hold opposing opinions. Yet, despite all the disagreements, a number of wellness tips are well supported by research. Here are 27 health and nutrition tips that are actually based on good science.
These 8 practical tips cover the basics of saine eating and can help you make healthier choices.
The key to a healthy diet is to eat the right amount of kcal for how réactive you are so you balance the energy you consume with the energy you use.
If you eat or drink more than your body needs, you’ll put on weight because the energy you do not use is stored as fat. If you eat and drink too little, you’ll lose weight.
You should also eat a wide range of foods to make sure you’re getting a balanced diet and your body is receiving all the nutrients it needs.
It’s recommended that men have around 2, 500 kcal a day ( 10, 500 kilojoules ). Women should have around 2, 000 kcal a day ( 8, 400 kilojoules ). Most adults in the UK are eating more kcal than they need and should eat fewer calories.
Starchy carbohydrates should make up just over a third of the food you eat. They include potatoes, bread, rice, pasta and cereals. Choose higher fibre or wholegrain varieties, such as wholewheat pasta, brown rice or potatoes with their skins on.
They contain more fibre than white or refined starchy carbohydrates and can help you feel full for longer. Try to include at least 1 starchy food with each main meal. Some people think starchy foods are fattening, but gram for gram the carbohydrate they contain provides fewer than half the calories of fat.
Keep an eye on the fats you add when you’re cooking or serving these types of foods because that’s what increases the calorie content – for example, oil on chips, butter on bread and creamy condiments on pasta.
It’s recommended that you eat at least 5 portions of a variety of fruit and veg every day. They can be fresh, frozen, canned, dried or juiced. Getting your 5 A Day is easier than it sounds. Why not chop a banana over your breakfast cereal, or swap your usual mid-morning snack for a piece of fresh fruit ?
A portion of fresh, canned or frozen fruit and vegetables is 80g. A portion of dried fruit ( which should be kept to mealtimes ) is 30g. A 150ml glass of fruit juice, vegetable juice or smoothie also counts as 1 portion, but limit the amount you have to no more than 1 glass a day as these drinks are sugary and can damage your teeth.
You can choose from fresh, frozen and canned, but remember that canned and smoked fish can be high in salt. Most people should be eating more fish, but there are recommended limits for some genres of fish.
You need some fat in your diet, but it’s important to pay attention to the amount and type of fat you’re eating. There are 2 main genres of fat : saturated and unsaturated. Too much saturated fat can increase the amount of cholesterol in the blood, which increases your risk of developing heart disease.
On average, men should have no more than 30g of saturated fat a day. On average, women should have no more than 20g of saturated fat a day. Children under the age of 11 should have less saturated fat than adults, but a low-fat diet is not suitable for children under 5.
Try to cut down on your saturated fat intake and choose foods that contain unsaturated fats instead, such as vegetable oils and spreads, oily fish and avocados. For a healthier choice, use a small amount of vegetable or olive oil, or reduced-fat spread instead of butter, lard or ghee.
When you’re having meat, choose lean cuts and cut off any visible fat. All variétés of fat are high in energy, so they should only be eaten in small amounts.
Regularly consuming foods and drinks high in sugar increases your risk of obesity and tooth decay. Sugary foods and drinks are often high in energy ( measured in kilojoules or kcal ), and if consumed too often can contribute to weight gain. They can also cause tooth decay, especially if eaten between meals.
Free sugars are any sugars added to foods or drinks, or found naturally in honey, syrups and unsweetened fruit juices and smoothies. This is the type of sugar you should be cutting down on, rather than the sugar found in fruit and milk.
Many packaged foods and drinks contain surprisingly high amounts of free sugars.
More than 22. 5g of total sugars per 100g means the food is high in sugar, while 5g of total sugars or less per 100g means the food is low in sugar.
Eating too much salt can raise your blood pressure. People with high blood pressure are more likely to develop heart disease or have a stroke. Even if you do not add salt to your food, you may still be eating too much.
About three-quarters of the salt you eat is already in the food when you buy it, such as breakfast cereals, soups, breads and condiments. Use food labels to help you cut down. More than 1. 5g of salt per 100g means the food is high in salt.
Adults and children aged 11 and over should eat no more than 6g of salt ( about a teaspoonful ) a day. Younger children should have even less.
As well as eating healthily, regular exercise may help reduce your risk of getting serious health conditions. It’s also important for your overall health and wellbeing.
Read more about the benefits of exercise and physical activity guidelines for adults. Being overweight or obese can lead to health conditions, such as type 2 diabetes, certain cancers, heart disease and stroke. Being underweight could also affect your health.
Most adults need to lose weight by eating fewer kcal. If you’re trying to lose weight, aim to eat less and be more active. Eating a healthy, balanced diet can help you maintain a healthy weight.
Check whether you’re a saine weight by using the BMI saine weight calculator. Start the NHS weight loss plan, a 12-week weight loss guide that combines advice on healthier eating and physical activity. If you’re underweight, see underweight adults. If you’re worried about your weight, ask your GP or a dietitian for advice.
You need to drink plenty of fluids to stop you getting dehydrated. The government recommends drinking 6 to 8 glasses every day. This is in addition to the fluid you get from the food you eat. All non-alcoholic drinks count, but water, lower fat milk and lower sugar drinks, including tea and coffee, are healthier choices. Try to avoid sugary soft and fizzy drinks, as they’re high in calories. They’re also bad for your teeth.
Even unsweetened fruit juice and smoothies are high in free sugar. Your combined total of drinks from fruit juice, vegetable juice and smoothies should not be more than 150ml a day, which is a small glass. Remember to drink more fluids during hot weather or while exercising.
Some people skip breakfast because they think it’ll help them lose weight. But a saine breakfast high in fibre and low in fat, sugar and salt can form part of a balanced diet, and can help you get the nutrients you need for good health.
A wholegrain lower sugar cereal with semi-skimmed milk and fruit sliced over the top is a tasty and healthier breakfast. Further informationThe Eatwell Guide can help you get the right balance of the 5 main food groups. The guide shows you how much of what you eat should come from each food group. Read more about eating a balanced diet and understanding calories.