There’s More To Learning Than ABC’s and 123’s – Here’s Proof!
Every day I hear and read articles about parents comparing their child's abilities to name shapes, recite the alphabet, count to 100, and label / identify a huge range of colors. I'm sure these parents have good intentions and want the best for their child, but unfortunately knowing the ABCs and 123s isn't the end. […]


Every day I hear and read articles about parents comparing their child's abilities to name shapes, recite the alphabet, count to 100, and label / identify a huge range of colors.

I'm sure these parents have good intentions and want the best for their child, but unfortunately knowing the ABCs and 123s isn't the end.

In fact, many of those children who can read at 18 months and counting back from 100, lack some of the basic skills which are a better indicator of future success than early academic skills.

Here are some important basic skills that children learn when they are allowed to play freely:

  • social skills (taking turns, sharing, eye contact, joint attention, basics of conversation)
  • problem solving
  • coordination
  • Warning
  • vocabulary
  • reasoning (if ... then ...)

2 Problems children are currently facing

Acquire academic skills in early childhood

At one point, educators (but most likely policy makers) decided that children needed to be prepared for grade one before entering grade one. It means that Kindergarten seems to be the new first grade.

Kindergarten children across North America are expected to not only know the sounds of the alphabet and letters, but also to be able to read at a certain level.

There is less emphasis on learning through play.

In fact, this push for early academic skills spills over into preschools.

But more and more studies show that preschool should not focus directly on teaching and learning academic skills.

As a result, parents (who trust the education system) are increasingly pushing their children to respond to demands.

However, according to many well-known theories of child development, children are not ready to learn to read and write by the age of 3, 4, or even 5 years old.

This time should be devoted to experiential play and learning, defining core skills.

Would you like to try teaching your 3 month old to walk? I guess the answer is no.

We all know that a child must first hold their head up, turn around, sit independently, crawl (although some babies skip this step) and finally walk.

A 3 month old child does not have the muscle development or the coordination to stand and walk. Just like a 3 year old (or 4/5 year old) lacks the brain development to learn to read / write.

say no common core

I am delighted that where my children go to school (Ontario, Canada) the program for 4 and 5 year olds was revamped and put into action in 2014 and now focuses on learning through play and led by children.

My son's kindergarten classroom included an art station, a building corner, a dramatic play area, and a book corner.

Maybe we should take a look at the Finish the school system where children do not learn to read until they are 7 years oldYet in grade 8 Finnish children almost always score higher than North American students on tests.

In the United States, common basic standards are very much the subject of debate and rightly so.

Why do 4-year-olds have to have standardized tests? 4 year olds should play outside!

Many problems arise due to the lack of play in young children.

For example, the Washington Post published the article The decline of play in preschoolers and the rise of sensory problems.

It shows that the game is important for so many skills. More, mental health problems such as anxiety and depression are on the rise in young children due to too much pressure to be successful at a young age.

Did you know that your a child's vocabulary is one of the best indicators of future success* (and more specifically reading and writing)?

However, most Kindergarten and Kindergarten classes don't place much emphasis on vocabulary development.

* Read page 4 specifically

Learn to code the toys needed in today's electronic world

Early introduction to electronics

Young children get electronic devices far too early, and this includes school. As a result, they lose the many skills that can be learned through playing.

Take a look at this information about 2 year olds and their use of screens: Children As Young As 2 Using Pills, Parents Worried, ASHA Survey Says.

As a parent you probably make sure your kid doesn't eat too much candy and as they get older you warn them about the dangers of drugs and alcohol but why nobody cares of the time his child spends in front of a screen?

say no common core

I guess electronics makers and so called educational apps want you to believe your kid is learning.

However, I can assure you that what a 2, 3 or 4 year old learns by pressing on a tablet or cell phone is not the same as it would be. learn through play and through conversations with others.

In addition to not learning basic basic skills through play when a young child has unlimited access to screens, they are also at higher risk of weight problems and obesity.

Studies have also shown that many young children now have a TV in their bedroom or are given tablets or cellphones to take to bed with them to "help them fall asleep."

Unfortunately this will not result in quality sleep for your child.

Children need screen-free, uninterrupted sleep for their brains to develop.

I recently read a post in a parenting forum where a mom asked "How much screen time is too much for my 2.5 year old?".

A mother responded that she does not restrict her 2-year-old's access to screens because it only watch educational shows and play educational apps.

She went on to say that he's very bright and can count to 20 and sing the ABC song, and that he also knows his primary colors, so she isn't concerned with his development.

This mom said that she was quite fascinated by his intelligence and that due to his use of screens he would be ahead of many other kids as he knows the ins and outs of tablet browsing so well and will not have to learn it. in kindergarten or kindergarten.

The other parents seemed very impressed.

I wanted to comment but decided my response would be too long, so I chose to write an article instead. Maybe I'll go back to the forum and post a link to this article.

I have heard several parents say that because technology is all around us, children have to learn it sooner.

Here is why I must disagree with this statement.

I know a bit about technology and electronics, and I didn't get my first cell phone (which wasn't a smartphone) until I was 25. I sent my first email when I was 20. I am now able to create websites.

So I can assure you that if your kid doesn't have access to a tablet or smart phone by the age of 6 (just a random number I picked, I could have said 8 or even 10) , he will still understand how it all works and will be caught up by the 2 year old who knows how to navigate on a tablet, in no time.

What is the best toy for language development?

Children Need Fundamental Skills to Succeed!

These are the types of skills that children learn as they play and explore the world around them.

The skills I am referring to include vocabulary development, critical thinking, prediction and reasoning skills, social skills, problem solving, etc.

These are the skills that will enable children to tackle difficult academic tasks (once they are ready). Having these skills will also allow children to become tech professionals as this field is constantly evolving!

I'll say it again, children learn best through play! They must explore their surroundings and choose what interests them.

If your child is under 3 years old, Stay away from electronic toys that promise to teach your child academic skills.

Without the basics learned through play, there is no need to focus on academic skills.

There are learning toys available for babies, the little ones and preschool children that do not require batteries.

What they need is a parent who interacts with the child (not always, children also have to play alone) in a unstructured environment! Academic skills in early childhood should be taught through play. For example, children can learn to count by counting rocks they have found while hiking in nature.

Keep in mind that this article is intended for parents of young children.

I absolutely believe that electronics, technology and game-based learning have helped many people learn and thrive (by people, I mean young adults and adults).

What do you think of the promotion of early academic skills in preschoolers? Does it cause more harm than good? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

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Take charge. Children crave limits, which help them understand and manage an often confusing world. Show your love by setting boundaries so your kids can explore and discover their passions safely.

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Don’t try to fix everything. Give young kids a chance to find their own solutions. When you lovingly acknowledge a child’s minor frustrations without immediately rushing in to save her, you teach her self-reliance and resilience.

Pick your battles. Kids can’t absorb too many rules without turning off completely. Forget arguing about little stuff like fashion choices and occasional potty language. Focus on the things that really matter -- that means no hitting, rude talk, or lying.

Play with your children. Let them choose the activity, and don’t worry about rules. Just go with the flow and have fun. That’s the name of the game.

Read books together every day. Get started when he’s a newborn; babies love listening to the sound of their parents’ voices. Cuddling up with your child and a book is a great bonding experience that will set him up for a lifetime of reading.

Schedule daily special time. Let your child choose an activity where you hang out together for 10 or 15 minutes with no interruptions. There’s no better way for you to show your love.

Encourage daddy time. The greatest untapped resource available for improving the lives of our children is time with Dad -- early and often. Kids with engaged fathers do better in school, problem-solve more successfully, and generally cope better with whatever life throws at them.

Make warm memories. Your children will probably not remember anything that you say to them, but they will recall the family rituals -- like bedtimes and game night -- that you do together.

Be the role model your children deserve. Kids learn by watching their parents. Modeling appropriate, respectful, good behavior works much better than telling them what to do.

Fess up when you blow it. This is the best way to show your child how and when she should apologize.

Take charge. Children crave limits, which help them understand and manage an often confusing world. Show your love by setting boundaries so your kids can explore and discover their passions safely.

Live a little greener. Show your kids how easy it is to care for the environment. Waste less, recycle, reuse, and conserve each day. Spend an afternoon picking up trash around the neighborhood.

Always tell the truth. It’s how you want your child to behave, right ? Kiss and hug your spouse in front of the kids. Your marriage is the only example your child has of what an intimate relationship looks, feels, and sounds like. So it’s your emploi to set a great standard.

Give appropriate praise. Instead of simply saying, ' You’re great, ' try to be specific about what your child did to deserve the positive feedback. You might say, ' Waiting until I was off the phone to ask for cookies was hard, and I really liked your patience. '

Cheer the good stuff. When you notice your child doing something helpful or nice, let him know how you feel. It’s a great way to reinforce good behavior so he’s more likely to keep doing it.

Gossip about your kids. Fact : What we overhear is far more potent than what we are told directly. Make praise more effective by letting your child ' catch ' you whispering a compliment about him to Grandma, Dad, or even his teddy.

Give yourself a break. Hitting the drive-through when you’re too tired to cook doesn’t make you a bad père.

Trust your mommy gut. No one knows your child better than you. Follow your instincts when it comes to his health and well-being. If you think something’s wrong, chances are you’re right. Just say ' No. ' Resist the urge to take on extra obligations at the office or become the Volunteer Queen at your child’s school. You will never, ever regret spending more time with your children.

Don’t accept disrespect from your child. Never allow her to be rude or say hurtful things to you or anyone else. If she does, tell her firmly that you will not tolerate any form of disrespect. Pass along your plan. Mobilize the other caregivers in your child’s life -- your spouse, grandparents, daycare worker, babysitter -- to help reinforce the values and the behavior you want to instill. This includes everything from saying thank you and being kind to not whining.

Ask your children three ' you ' questions every day. The art of conversation is an important social skill, but parents often neglect to teach it. Get a kid going with questions like, ' Did you have fun at school ? ' ; ' What did you do at the party you went to ? ' ; or ' Where do you want to go tomorrow afternoon ? ' Teach kids this bravery trick. Tell them to always notice the color of a person’s eyes. Making eye contact will help a hesitant child appear more confident and will help any kid to be more assertive and less likely to be picked on.

Acknowledge your kid’s strong emotions. When your child’s meltdown is over, ask him, ' How did that feel ? ' and ' What do you think would make it better ? ' Then listen to him. He’ll recover from a tantrum more easily if you let him talk it out.

Show your child how to become a responsible citizen. Find ways to help others all year. Kids gain a sense of self-worth by volunteering in the community. Don’t raise a spoiled kid. Keep this thought in mind : Every child is a treasure, but no child is the center of the universe. Teach him accordingly.

Talk about what it means to be a good person. Start early : When you read bedtime stories, for example, ask your toddler whether characters are being mean or nice and explore why. Explain to your kids why values are important. The simple answer : When you’re kind, generous, honest, and respectful, you make the people around you feel good. More important, you feel good about yourself.

Set up a ' gratitude circle ' every night at dinner. Go around the table and take turns talking about the various people who were generous and kind to each of you that day. It may sound corny, but it makes everyone feel good.

Serve a food again and again. If your child rejects a new dish, don’t give up hope. You may have to offer it another six, eight, or even 10 times before he eats it and decides he likes it. Avoid food fights. A saine child instinctively knows how much to eat. If he refuses to finish whatever food is on his plate, just let it go. He won’t starve.

Eat at least one meal as a family each day. Sitting down at the table together is a relaxed way for everyone to connect -- a time to share happy news, talk about the day, or tell a silly joke. It also helps your kids develop healthy eating habits. Let your kids place an order. Once a week, allow your children to choose what’s for dinner and cook it for them.

Say ' I love you ' whenever you feel it, even if it’s 743 times a day. You simply can not spoil a child with too many mushy words of affection and too many smooches. Not possible. Keep in mind what grandmoms always say. Children are not yours, they are only lent to you for a time. In those fleeting years, do your best to help them grow up to be good people. Savor the instants. Yes, parenthood is the most exhausting travail on the planet. Yes, your house is a mess, the laundry’s piled up, and the dog needs to be walked. But your kid just laughed. Enjoy it now -- it will be over far too fast.

Teach your baby to sign. Just because a child can’t talk doesn’t mean there isn’t lots that she’d like to say. Simple signs can help you know what she needs and even how she feels well before she has the words to tell you -- a great way to reduce frustration. Keep the tube in the family room. Research has repeatedly shown that children with a TV in their bedroom weigh more, sleep less, and have lower grades and poorer social skills. P. S. Parents with a television in their bedroom have sex less often. Get kids moving. The latest research shows that brain development in young children may be linked to their activity level. Place your baby on her tummy several times during the day, let your toddler walk instead of ride in her stroller, and create opportunities for your older child to get plenty of exercise.

Get your kids vaccinated. Outbreaks of measles and other diseases still occur in our country and throughout the world. Protect that smile. Encouraging your kid to brush twice a day with a dab of fluoride toothpaste will guard against cavities. Be averti about safety. Babyproof your home thoroughly, and never leave a child under 5 in the tub alone. Make sure car seats are installed correctly, and insist that your child wear a helmet when riding his bike or scooter. Listen to the doc. If your pediatrician thinks your kid’s fever is caused by a malware, don’t push for antibiotics. The best medicine may be rest, lots of fluids, and a little TLC. Overprescribing antibiotics can cause medical problems for your child and increase the probabilités of creating superbugs that resist treatment.

Keep sunblock next to your kid’s toothpaste. Apply it every day as part of the morning routine. It’ll become as natural as brushing her teeth. Put your baby to bed drowsy but still awake. This helps your child learn to soothe himself to sleep and prevents bedtime problems down the line. Know when to toilet train. Look for these two signs that your child is ready to use the potty : He senses the urge to pee and poop ( this is different from knowing that he’s already gone ), and he asks for a diaper change.

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