How to make a girl orgasm without it sounding like a "math test" - Discover the simple approach to female pleasure ...
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This is another episode of Ask Ruwando.
Today's question comes from Chucho.
"All I hear is how to get a girl down, how to make her squirt, et cetera."
It gives me a lot of pressure. Why is it so important to give women orgasms?
And how can I do it without feeling like I'm studying for a goddamn math test?
Thanks for the question, Chucho.
Watch the full transcript of the video below…
The first thing I want to say is this:
You already know why orgasms are important for women.
Orgasms are good - it's the same with men.
It is a kind of marker of sexual success.
But this is also the problem. I want you to get out of this idea of focusing on this orgasm goal.
Because if you think about it "Okay. I need to get her out, I need to get her out. I have to make her squirt. I need some type of orgasm"…
One, as you said, that puts pressure on you.
Not only is that going to ruin your performance, but she's going to feel all that pressure you are putting on yourself… and she's going to feel pressure on herself.
It's like, "Oh, I need to do something to satisfy his male ego."
This is not going to be pleasant for her.
What if you want to please women, it's like a "math test" ...
Same thing if a woman pressured you to get tough in some record time.
It would totally throw your mojo out. So remember that too.
If you feel like it's a math test, the whole sexual experience will be turned off.
No one wants to enter sex feeling like they're studying for something.
So I want you to go into sex without worrying about fucking her.
Because the truth is, a woman's ability to get out doesn't even have to do with you.
I mean, it has to do with her - it has to do with her ability to access arousal in her body.
If she can't reach orgasm every time, it's NOT your fault (here's why) ...
If you ever sleep with someone who has done tantra, you will understand that.
It's not actually about you. You just have to show up and do the right things and not mess it up, basically.
And while it's a very noble goal to want to give women great orgasms ... you want to get out of that state of mind.
Instead, I'm going to bring up a concept that I bring up in almost every video, namely the “resonant trait”.
In every moment of sex, there is a speed, a pressure and a location, a way of touching that allows the most sensation.
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If you focus on that moment, she'll probably have the most fun.
She is the most likely to have an orgasm - not only an orgasm, but the best orgasms.
If you're completely present and doing the right thing every moment, and she doesn't have an orgasm ... it's not on you.
Really, it's not on you. I mean, all you have to do is introduce yourself and do your best.
So here's what I'm going to say about it. The other aspect is that if you are in math test mode, you are clearly not present, you are literally in your head.
You really think too much.
The "secret" to giving hot girls orgasms without even trying ...
If you can really focus on the sensations from one moment to the next, it's a bit like the "zen approach".
You're not trying to figure it out, you're just trying to notice it.
You're just trying to be with it.
Meditate on her body, meditate on her vagina, meditate on the whole experience for both of you.
Because that's what's going to make for the best experience for both of you.
So, I guess by your question, you probably haven't thought of female pleasure like that… so what I'm telling you might sound counterintuitive.
It may sound crazy. And it might take a little faith.
Because it could be the opposite of what you are thinking right now:
"Oh, I have to try." Right.
Our traditional school system puts this on our heads - we have to figure out how to solve every problem.
But that's not how sex works. They don't teach sex well in school, obviously.
So step into the present moment, have fun with it, and really do good sex for you.
Check with her too, as that will make things even better.
(Often times if you just ask a girl, “Does this feel good?” During sex, she just needs to tell you what she is doing. REALLY wants you to do it.)
Just apply a little faith and see if going at it at any moment, rather than trying to get a result, works better for you.
And if in doubt ... you can always take it over the edge by doing this:
Get her out every time with that "brainless" movement ...
We all know why give a woman an orgasm is important. It feels good, it's an indicator of sexual competence and it makes her want to bang you over and over.
And while there are a ton of ways to get a woman out ... from afar, the technique that makes women come the fastest and hardest is to use your fingers ...
I recommend watching the video above ^^^ so you can see the technique in action ...
When you use this technique as the video shows you, your wife WILL come…
... and she will come many.. (speaking from experience)….
… And not only will she feel satisfied beyond belief, but she will desperately come back to you for more:
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