Over the years, the people who write in Scarleteen have asked a lot questions about everything kinds of crushing and crushed. Concerns about crushes included everything you'd expect: like worries about rejection if a crush is continued - and all the usual stunners, do-I-or-don't-I-don't? - worries about the discovery of a crush with an uncertain crush, or when the crushes put someone outside of heterosexuality; how to make decisions under the influence of a crush. There was a crush on friends, teachers, guys on the bus, unbelievable daughter, someone's brother - goofy - someone else's girlfriend (damn it), even on someone else's character. There has been so much worry that this delicious, but also scary feeling, might never end or even give you five minutes of peace again.
What is a crush? I think crushes can be like what some people say about being in love, pornography, or Orgasm: a little hard to define, but you'll probably know it when you feel it. There's more than one type of crush - there's the lusty-lovey kind, but also just the lusty kind or just the loving kind, but THEN there are also friend crushes, I-wanna-be-as-cool-as-they-are, crushes for parents, pet crushes, bangs of heart for someone's creative work and so many others are more of one type at a time! There's definitely more than one way to feel when a person has a crush or is crushed, and Kindness knows that there are a million different contexts we all experience crushes in.
More generally, I just define crushes as a strong - usually very strong - interest or attraction to someone (or something), and usually someone with whom you are not already very involved or close. I would personally say that a lot of what limerence, or new relationship energy is, are people with a mutual crush who are hooking up now. (Shazam! SUPERCRUSH POWERS ACTIVATE!)
I am someone who tends to identify what is used and what is not a crush me, however, by how I feel: totally distracted no matter how hard I try to focus on something else? Check. Do you feel like my whole emotional center of gravity has taken on the shape of a pear? Check. Noticing that my thoughts seem to have a very singular focus? A singular objective on which I seem to continue to do everything else? A singular focus that maybe my friends could really become, really tired of hearing about it? Eeyup. Listening to music, sometimes endlessly repeated, that makes me cringe and crush me? You know. When was the last time I was there for a whole day, or even a whole hour, without thinking about abou ... oh my God. Yes. I crack.
The good news and the bad news for all of us is that crushes - or at least their initial intensity - are usually temporary. We won't always feel that way, which to my mind is both disappointing and a huge relief. But no matter what is or isn't from crushes, whatever shape or size they are, and however long they hang around, it can be amazing and life-affirming to just let you fully experience what they feel. and follow for a while. .
If you want to read bits based on overwrite or adjacent to overwrite, may I suggest:
- Dos and Don'ts of Crushes (with the help of a very small dog) I have attached a photo of Troublepants, my canine companion who is mentioned in this piece, for the crush. It's been a tough week, he's adorable and I think we could all use a puppy now.
- About the rejection: What's in a no? And, if you needed this one as an ointment for the rejection that's already happened, you might have some use for that as well: Personal care à la carte.
- If you're trying to decide what to do about a crush, you might be considering something that comes with some risk, even just for your pride. It might even set you back when you would really like to pursue something that could be potentially good, and when it would be good for you to take a positive risk. Risky business: learning to take risks into account and make good sexual choices can help you if you need it.
- If things with a crush can get sexual, it can be really easy to get carried away on your own, so just in case: Whoa, there! How to slow down when you're moving too fast and Safer sex ... for your heart.
- In the event that a crush does turn into a relationship, two great places to start here for some basic information to help you start an intimate relationship on the right foot are: Hello sailor! How to build, embark and manage a healthy relationship and Supermodel: Create and nurture your own best relationship models.
- If things can get potentially domestic while you're in the throes of a crush, you can help yourself, you might want some wise advice from a few friends and a copy of this: You, Them and a U-Haul: Consider Cohabitation.
Are you now or have you ever floated and gooey or jerky and excited or smug or do you feel downright tortured or just imploding under the giant wave of What are all those weirdly distracting feelings? There's a song here for that: even if you've never had a crush before, you might feel like you have one now.
- C'est Oh So Quiet - Björk
- Sucker - Jonas Brothers
- Make Me Feel - Janelle Monáe
- I just saw a face - The Beatles
- He is so beautiful - Chiffon
- There she goes - Six pence, none the richest
- How Will I Know - Whitney Houston
- Call Me Maybe - Carly Rae Jepsen
- Sun Saturday - Vance Joy
- Oh, pretty woman - Roy Orbison
- Loving Stone - Travel
- Blank Space - Taylor Swift
- Strange Magic - Electric Light Orchestra
- ILYSB - LANY
- Cherry - Rina Sawayama
- Thinkin Bout You - Frank Ocean
- Strawberry blonde - Mitski
- I Waited - Matthew Sweet
- The Hopeful Song - Hello, I'm sorry
- Honey - Eryn Allen Kane
- Bad Liar - Selena Gomez
- I touch myself - Divinyls
- Mild earthquakes - AURORA
- I Melt with You - Modern English
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, ménages and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. Sexual health, when viewed affirmatively, requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. The ability of men and women to achieve sexual health and well-being depends on their :
Sexual health-related issues are wide-ranging, and encompass sexual orientation and gender identity, sexual expression, relationships, and pleasure. They also include negative consequences or conditions such as : infections with human immunodeficiency malware ( HIV ), sexually transmitted infections ( STIs ) and reproductive tract infections ( RTIs ) and their adverse outcomes ( such as cancer and infertility ) ;unintended pregnancy and abortion;sexual dysfunction;sexual violence; andharmful practices ( such as female genital mutilation, FGM ).
No matter where you are coming from, WE ARE HERE to help bring Sexual Health into a more positive and empowering place. A place where hopefully you can learn the sexual health information you would like, see or speak to a professional in the field whether on the Sex Sense Line or at one of our many clinics throughout BC, and come away knowing that sexual health is a natural part of being human.
Options for Sexual Health champions and celebrates sexual health including an individual’s freedom of sexual expression, the diversity of human sexuality, and a positive sexual self-image for individuals throughout life. Think about what factors influence your sexual health ? What messages have you been given about sexual health from… ( if applicable ) ….. your family ? friends ? society ? culture ? religion ? spirituality ? What are some of your own values and beliefs ?
How we experience our sexual health is also part of how we experience the world. For example, there are many factors that health researchers have identified that can impact our health including sexual health. These are known as the ‘social determinants of health’ and include how health is affected by income, education, employment, childhood development, food, housing, health services, gender, race, disability, Indigenous status, social marginalization, and social services. If someone’s gender identity/identities are not recognized this can effet their sexual health and experiences of social marginalization. Another example is if someone is a newcomer to Canada and may not speak the language or have the health care card that will allow them to access the sexual health services they need. As you can see, our sexual health is as individual and complicated as the various dynamics of our lives. Human sexuality rarely falls into neat categories or lends itself to simple labeling, but rather is a rich and complex area of human experience. Sexual health is personal, psychological, relational, cultural, spiritual, physical, and emotional. So what does “sexual health” mean to you ?
This supplemental venant of Public Health Reports ( PHR ) presents a variety of articles addressing the science and practical applications of sexual health, an important health promotion concept with the potential for improving population health in a broad range of areas related to sexual behavior, including human immunodeficiency virus ( HIV ) /acquired immunodeficiency syndrome ( AIDS ), sexually transmitted diseases ( STDs ), viral hepatitis, teen and unintended pregnancy, and sexual violence. The focus of these articles is especially timely given the population burden of these conditions in the United States and other nations, and the growing recognition that, despite the sensitive nature of the topic, addressing the broad construct of sexual health can enhance the national dialogue in this area and increase the effectiveness of public health programs
The concept of sexual health has evolved since its initial articulation by the World Health Organization ( WHO ) in 1975, 5 but it has generally emphasized well-being across a range of life domains ( e. g., physical, esprit, and emotional ) rather than simply the absence of disease or other adverse outcomes. 6 The definition of sexual health currently in most widespread use is that developed by WHO in 2002 :
Sexual health is a state of physical, emotional, esprit, and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction, or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence
Sexual health is a state of well-being in relation to sexuality across the life span that involves physical, emotional, mental, social, and spiritual dimensions. Sexual health is an intrinsic element of human health and is based on a positive, equitable, and respectful approach to sexuality, relationships, and duplication, that is free of coercion, fear, discrimination, stigma, shame, and violence. It includes : the ability to understand the benefits, risks, and responsibilities of sexual behavior; the prevention and care of disease and other adverse outcomes; and the possibility of fulfilling sexual relationships. Sexual health is impacted by socioeconomic and cultural contexts—including policies, practices, and services—that support healthy outcomes for individuals, families, and their communities.
Similar to the WHO definition, this newer definition is health-focused, emphasizing well-being related to sexuality that is beyond the absence of specific health problems, in multiple dimensions of life, as well as positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and relationships. Moving beyond the WHO definition, the CHAC definition also specifically emphasizes attributes of sexual health at both the individual level ( e. g., individual understanding of benefits, risks and responsibilities, and prevention and care of health outcomes ) and the social level ( e. g., impact by socioeconomic and cultural contexts and saine outcomes for families and communities as well as individuals ).
In the past decade, there has been increasing attention to the importance of addressing the concept of sexual health, 1–4 with the premise that remise of sexual health has great potential to complement traditional disease control and prevention efforts for a range of conditions of public health importance—not with the intent of replacing those efforts, but rather of improving their acceptance and, thus, the impact of those prevention efforts on the population. It is from this perspective that this supplemental provenant of PHR has been developed, with the purpose of bringing together a range of articles addressing new insights into research, surveillance, program practice, and broader possibilités that can influence our understanding and progress on the broad topic of sexual health. It should be noted that “sexual health” is a concept undergoing evolution, not only in its definition, but also in its practical application. The term generally includes a focus on health and wellness rather than disease, an appreciation for the intrinsic importance of sexual health as part of overall health, and an attempt to address comprehensively a range of outcomes of public health importance; however, some of the articles in this supplement address a relatively narrower focus ( e. g., STD and pregnancy prevention9–11 ), while others include a broader spectrum. 12–17 Such variety is a necessary and important aspect of the uptake of the sexual health concept into the technique and practice of public health.
Four articles address important research questions in key areas relevant to sexual health. First, Penman-Aguilar and colleagues conducted a detailed literature review to assess the effet of socioeconomic disadvantage on teen childbearing. neuf While the factors evaluated varied by study, the authors discovered a consistent theme across the review, with all studies that considered socioeconomic factors as determinants finding a significant union with teen birth rates, including factors at the family level ( e. g., lower levels of père education and family income ) and the community level ( e. g., lower per capita income and higher rates of unemployment and racial segregation ). The review found that relatively few studies assessed factors at both the family and community levels, an important priority for future research.
Second, using nationally representative data from the National Longitudinal Study of Youth and the U. S Census Bureau, Biello et al. conducted an in-depth analysis of the effet of various dimensions of residential racial segregation on the risk for early initiation of intercourse—an important risk factor for STD and teen pregnancy—among black and white adolescents. 17 The finding that black youth were more likely than their white peers to have initiated sexual intercourse in adolescence was significantly modified by several measures of segregation ( e. g., concentration and unevenness ) with a particularly notable black-white disparity in highly segregated areas. While preliminary, these findings contribute to our growing understanding of the complex interplay between social determinants and individual sexual health outcomes and should stimulate further research in this area.
Third, to understand the association of relationship characteristics and attitudes about STD and pregnancy outcomes with the use of dual protection strategies ( i. e., both highly effective contraception and condoms ), Crittenden Murray and colleagues conducted formative research among young African American women attending reproductive health clinics. 10 The study found a tension from trying to balance the desire to establish and maintain intimate relationships with the use of protection strategies ( e. g., condom use could be seen as a sign of mistrust ). The authors conclude that a more holistic approach, with a focus on healthy ado and young adult relationships, is important in interventions to prevent STD and unintended pregnancy, an provenant that can be especially important in environments where trust is often violated ( e. g., due to frequent concurrent partnerships ) and childbearing at younger ages is accepted.