Life After Trump – The Good Men Project
I hope this is the last time I write about Donald Trump. As he obeys the law and is stepping down on January 20, 2021 and no longer running for president, I have more interesting topics to explore. I have tried to ignore him as best I can over the past few years, but it […]

I hope this is the last time I write about Donald Trump. As he obeys the law and is stepping down on January 20, 2021 and no longer running for president, I have more interesting topics to explore.

I have tried to ignore him as best I can over the past few years, but it would have been irresponsible not to report him for his misdeeds. I tried to look for interesting angles where I could try not to repeat the obvious, but as a writer I had to be on the disc as part of the resistance.

I don't care if he launches TrumpTV or his followers continue to listen to his divisive lies until the last day of his broadcast. I want him to escape legal power. As the nation heals, I will do the same, although I suspect that I will heal more slowly than most. His portrayal of an America so diametrically opposed to my ideal took a toll on my immune system.

More than half of the country did not register this american carnage. A monster dumped him on us. Now we threw it away.

Am I relieved? Only to the extent that a cataclysmic disease goes into remission. You know it's still there. Cancer is her set of beliefs. Too many Americans still subscribe to this indefensible set of lies.

I thought of the arc of our generation, of the arc of the moral universe, as Dr King reminds us: “no lie can live forever.“We didn't expect our struggle for civil rights to be flawless, but neither was it meant to derail altogether. Trump tried to turn fifty years of progress into four years of devolution. I'll take a flyer and say it failed, but now, with broad restrictions removed from dialogue that would cause us to abandon too many hard-won social norms that have brought us closer to justice, how will we choose to revive our spirits? ?

I think the ultimate legacy of this cynical presidency will be the accelerated deterioration of the public's ability to discern fact from fiction. This president did not create the notion of fake news; he simply used his inflexible platform to make it into a meme. He deliberately blurred the definition of traditional journalism for the sake of self-serving convenience. It may not be a crime in the law, but I think it is a crime against humanity.

There is fake news. It's not when a qualified Wall Street Journal reporter makes a mistake and prints a retraction. It's when an unruly individual with an agenda expresses an unedited opinion as a fact without remorse, often in the chaos of social media, but sometimes opportunistically with more deliberate distribution. There is a lot of gray area between these poles, but it doesn't take an advanced degree to understand which way the pendulum swings. The litmus test is intention and methodology. Is the intention to access the truth or to obscure it?

It's not just the Trumpers to blame. The reactive nature of Trump's opponents is often also unqualified or hesitant. I don't think the disease is all about retreating to the echo chambers. I think this is the shameless effectiveness in discrediting the notion of authoritative sourcing.

We grew up believing in asking the source of a claim. If the public comes to believe that all sources are equally fallible, then all that remains is self-selection in bias or convenience.

To me, that's the real definition of fascism - if we can't believe in anything empirical, we have yet to align ourselves with a decision maker on blind surrender. Then all that's left is a numbers game for determining right or wrong, also known as situational ethics, a world where there is no "correct" trial court. Membership is purely democratic and won with a majority, regardless of belief.

This heritage is Orwellian, and it is terrifying.

Are we at a point of no return in life after Trump? I do not think so.

I think restoring faith in specific journalism is an essential remedy, but the how is not obvious. All media can now be grouped into the fake news category, depending on who is making the point.

No matter how much we disagree, the followers and detractors of InfoWars and The New York Times each believe one side is right and the other is lying. Somehow, the two are tagged in a bucket called the media, and both are blamed by those who view the other as fake news.

This is the challenge we face: can we find a way back to a well-reasoned discussion or are we hopelessly lost in the noise? Because the problem is solvable, I must remain optimistic,

Watch the HBO documentary After the truth, extensive exploration of the deterioration of the spread of fake news, I realized what a mess we are in. We can agree that fake news is one thing, but as long as we fundamentally disagree with its definition, that definition can be militarized.

As long as winning an argument is more important than having the right information to evaluate an argument, we risk destroying each other in the name of winning. Call it the end of civility, call it the end of democracy and the gate of fascism - whatever you call it, this is not a world where the arc of the moral universe leans toward justice .

For me, this is the main challenge of life after Trump. We share a national infrastructure and pay taxes to a common federal government, with distinct and to some extent irreconcilable visions about how we assess fairness, accountability, justice and the facts. A new president is not going to solve this. If we don't embrace the need to address this issue as fundamental to our success, our best times are probably behind us.

I don't want to believe that we can't agree on what is true, but like many of you, I'm tired after so much fighting. I don't mean to say I'm exhausted, but I'm ready for a dose of stability, a pavement that doesn't crumble under my feet. I believe in government, but I want it in the background of my life so that I can paint the foreground. I'm not talking about what the president tweeted today, whose career he destroyed, or the obvious embarrassment of his latest lie. I don't want to feel exasperated before my labor even starts. I want to trust science, logic, dignity and common sense.

I want the truth to be the truth and a lie to be a lie and most of us to agree on the difference.

If we can do it, life after Trump will be better, if for no other reason than we leave behind the low point of celebrating absurdity. If we can't uncover a set of shared values ​​that define us as a nation, then I guess it won't matter.

I'll take another flyer and bet on integrity. Together we will learn how to build consensus around what is true, because we got a taste of what happens when we don't recognize this need. We live in the same world, and there are realities in this world that are indisputable. Orwell say it as succinctly as you can say:

Freedom is the freedom to say that two plus two is four. If granted, everything else follows.

Let's start life after Trump by accepting this.

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About six months before I turned 50, a friend tried to convince me to enter a physique contest. He had just turned 40, and was thrilled to be in the over-40 category because there were fewer guys for him to compete against. He said to me, “Kirk, you can win the over-50 category. There are only a few guys who enter. But, you have no lats or traps—most older dudes don’t. Work on your back and you got it in the bag ! ” I wasn’t too excited to enter a competition with “no competition, ” but I was pretty peeved to hear him say I had no lats or traps. My back was better than that. Although I had no intention to enter the competition, I started doing more single-arm dumbbell rows to work my back. Now, a few years later, it’s one of my favorite dumbbell exercises. Importantly, I’m not trying to break any records when it comes to weight here, like I might have in my younger days. Quality reps at low weight is the bigger focus.

There are versions of the exercise where you see guys use a bench for support, using a hand or even placing a knee on the bench. These have their merits ( although MH sport director Ebenezer Samuel, C. S. C. S. would rather you not put a knee up ). However, I mostly do the version with no assistance from the bench with both feet on the ground as points of contact. This version works your traps, rhomboids, rear delts and rotator cuff muscles, but you also get some core work, something you greatly need as you get older. Remember, though, that the way do the exercise is subjective to your own abilities. If you need some extra support for balance, don’t hesitate to put a hand down.

tera set up for my preferred variation, pick up a light dumbbell, especially to start. Stand with your feet in a parallel stance about shoulder-width apart. Hold the dumbbell in a neutral position at your side, as if you would for a hammer curl. Place your free hand behind you, with the back of your hand on the small of your back ( you can also extend your off arm out to balance ). Next, bend over by pushing your butt back and hinging at your waist, with your knees slightly bent. There should be no rounding of the spine, and you should keep your gaze down at the floor in a neutral neck place. Lastly, as you’re hanging onto the dumbbell with your arm pointing to the floor, squeeze your shoulder blades together so your shoulders lock in place and don’t slump.

From this starting place, use your back to sweat the dumbbell up without twisting your spine. Pull up as high as you can, pause for a moment at the top and squeeze your shoulder blades together even more. Then release by lowering the dumbbell back to the starting position. tera control my pace, I usually sweat up for 2 seconds, squeeze at the top for 2 seconds, then release back to the starting place in 2 seconds.

By doing the dumbbell row unilaterally ( one arm at a time ), you’ll feel yourself being pulled off balance. You must fight with your abs and obliques to maintain balance and stability, which is why I love this exercise so much. Although you won’t be able to load up with as much weight as you would using the bench for stabilization, the extra core work you’ll get makes this version well worth putting in your arsenal of exercises. Try 4 sets of 8 to 10 reps during upper body workouts to get started.

We all know that it’s common for men to skip the doctor until they become sick, injure themselves or are faced with a serious health problem. And a majority of men will postpone seeking care for a few days to see whether they feel any better. It’s the whole ' if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it ' line of thinking.

But there are steps the men in your life can take today to improve their vitality and help prevent health problems down the road. Of course, there are some things that can’t be changed, such as family history and age, but every day choices can have a big effet on their current and future health.

Eating a diet that’s low in fat ( less than 7 percent of kcal should come from saturated fats ), cholesterol, and salt, and packed with fresh fruits and vegetables ( two cups of fruit per day; three cups of vegetables per day for men up to age 50 and two and a half cups for men aged 51 and over ), whole grains and fiber can help improve your health, prevent heart disease, diabetes and certain cancers.

Try to get 30 minutes of moderate physical activity on most days of the week. Taking a walk, jogging, swimming and mowing the lawn all count. But don’t be a weekend sports warrior. Start slowly if you aren’t normally réactive and gradually build up. No time ? Research shows that even short bursts of physical activity—as few as 10 minutes of soutenu activity several times a day—can help men improve their health. Talk to your doctor about the right exercise program for you.

It’s important to maintain a healthy weight. Excess weight, especially around the waist, can be hard on your body. Carrying too much body fat forces your heart to work harder and increases your chances of heart disease and stroke, even if you have no other risk factors ! So, try to curb weight gain as you age.

Tobacco smoke contains more than 4, 000 chemicals and is a known cause of cancer. Smoking also increases the likelihood of high blood pressure, heart disease, lung problems and other health problems. And if you think chewing tobacco is safer, think again. Not only is chewing tobacco a known cause of cancer ( carcinogen ), it also contributes to gum disease and tooth loss and may be linked to fertility problems. And, few could argue that chewing and spitting is attractive to a partner. If you smoke or chew, talk to your health care professional about ways to quit. Consider nicotine replacement therapy products that include self-help programs, if appropriate.

Whether it’s pulling out the weed whacker, going for a bike ride or grilling with the neighbors, safety is key. Here are just a few examples : Take care when moving heavy objects. It’s easy to strain yourself when lifting boxes, furniture and other heavy items. Use your knees and legs and not your back for leverage. And ask for help, if you need it. Wear appropriate protective gear for your eyes and ears when using leaf blowers, lawn mowers and other machines at home or work. Excessive exposure to noise is the most common cause of hearing loss. Wear a helmet when you ride a bike or ski and throw on reflective clothing if you go for a run after dark. When grilling, never leave the grill unattended, especially when small children and pets are around, and keep a fire extinguisher handy. The grill should be at least 10 feet from your house or any building. tera protect your skin, avoid prolonged exposure to the sun and apply ( and reapply ) sunscreen with an SPF of 15 or greater that provides protection against UVA and UVB rays.


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