Like many children in Ethiopia, Abel and his younger brother spent many years growing up together in an orphanage in Ethiopia. But at the dawn of adulthood, Abel soon "graduated" from the institution, leaving Kiya behind, along with his warm mentor Mihret. Abel will also face life on the streets, where he will likely rely on crime for a living and deal with daily threats of violence and uncertainty.
Feeling bitter and rebellious, Abel struggles with the reality of never having been adopted - a fate many Ethiopian orphans face, in a country where five percent of its total population are orphans and where official policies have ended. international adoptions in 2018. He will also face discrimination because orphans are viewed with suspicion and shame.
Kiya still hopes to find a family, but Abel is still trying to prepare his brother for a more realistic future. When a prospective adoptive couple threatens to break up the brothers, their future as a family is on the line.
Writer-director Josh Leong's compelling social drama is at the heart of a story about family ties, skillfully weaving a sensitive and resonant story about love and loyalty between brothers while highlighting a difficult social reality to which far too many children are faced -on one corner of the globe.
Many social dramas can switch to didactics, where the characters become puppets who espouse ideas and symbolize positions instead of feeling, thinking and acting like real human beings. But the excellent writing and directing avoids that trap, carefully delineating the emotional journey of two young men facing a precipice in their lives - a precipice that they are often powerless to change, but which they owe it to themselves. adapt, with few resources to draw on.
The making of films, too, has an immediacy and liveliness, from the pocket camera to the editing that juxtaposes scenes from Abel's life for maximum surprise and energy. The narrative impetus, however, is character-driven, with Abel making choices that speak to his fear and despair. While the format is short, Abel has multifaceted complexity here, clearly loving his brother but pragmatic about what he needs to do to prepare for his future transition.
It is brought to life by an excellent performance by actor Ethan Herisse, who was last seen in Ava DuVernay's award-winning limited series, When They See Us and who forcefully evokes the struggle to deal with his bitterness and anger. interior while confronting the innocence and hopes of his brother. . His love for his brother and his choices on the streets are at odds - and put him in confrontation not only with himself, but with the person he loves most.
What makes "The Other Side" particularly powerful as a narrative is not only its powerful portrayal of a difficult reality for many children in Ethiopia, but also how it becomes a heartbreaking portrayal of hope: how the hope is lost, but also how it is kept, even with the most fragile and tenuous realities that are beyond the control of these children.
The ending of "The Other Side" honors this tension by not arranging its narrative questions with simple and neat answers. A question mark hangs over Abel's ultimate fate, but it's also true for too many children in Ethiopia, who live in an overburdened system serving far too many orphans. The only hope left is love, but the question is whether it is enough to overcome what will likely be considerable obstacles.
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What if and if we sneak
And they're right, I saw one
sneak like this stop
can you go and he had a knife
I bet I'm serious you haven't heard a
I think he will pretend but
hey nobody is going to save you there
you know the exercise the more you say
nothing more we stay here
you can't always let your fists do the
today will be Adam's last submarine with us
so we want to wish him a happy birthday
who brought news today there will be
a couple visiting tomorrow afternoon
they come all the way from Addis
so if you want to meet them
dress in clean clothes smile
do I think they will look for
abi wait tabit hey stop go
get off where are you even going
no no that again you do not say one
tomorrow come see the addis people
and i will keep your secrets
what you thought was real
Last year we all waited and no one ever
but this time and if it's true no look
even if they came they would go for the
little ones like dog or ahmad you
kia when was the last time they chose
like a mario joseph jose don't even do it
I wanna leave alright we're all still here
nobody comes to a letter because they
why do you even care about being 18
you never have to deal with me again
where did you stop
go talk to kia i don't know what you
I don't want anything from you already
i just want you to talk to me
does he know i don't think he would like it
because i thought i would give it to
him when a family comes and goes
and they have a daughter leah
so you will already have a sister sister
i promise i will be there tomorrow
where have you been give me a break
you promised that I didn't promise anything
you think waiting here will do
can you just listen to me for once
I met them, they were here
I dream of a chance and with you
you think i don't dream too much
you think i don't come by every day
wondering where our family is
about the destination of the spectator i
I wish I could stop running kia
but you and I never had a choice
i don't do this for me
I will not ask you that I am 18 years old
were you too ugly for them
but i am not ready to go
Sometimes sweating is not about this
this is who you become
I waited for eternity on the
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About six months before I turned 50, a friend tried to convince me to enter a physique contest. He had just turned 40, and was thrilled to be in the over-40 category because there were fewer guys for him to compete against. He said to me, “Kirk, you can win the over-50 category. There are only a few guys who enter. But, you have no lats or traps—most older dudes don’t. Work on your back and you got it in the bag ! ” I wasn’t too excited to enter a competition with “no competition, ” but I was pretty peeved to hear him say I had no lats or traps. My back was better than that. Although I had no intention to enter the competition, I started doing more single-arm dumbbell rows to work my back. Now, a few years later, it’s one of my favorite dumbbell exercises. Importantly, I’m not trying to break any records when it comes to weight here, like I might have in my younger days. Quality reps at low weight is the bigger focus.
There are versions of the exercise where you see guys use a bench for support, using a hand or even placing a knee on the bench. These have their merits ( although MH sport director Ebenezer Samuel, C. S. C. S. would rather you not put a knee up ). However, I mostly do the version with no aide from the bench with both feet on the ground as points of contact. This version works your traps, rhomboids, rear delts and rotator cuff groupes de muscles, but you also get some core work, something you greatly need as you get older. Remember, though, that the way do the exercise is subjective to your own abilities. If you need some extra support for balance, don’t hesitate to put a hand down.
tera set up for my preferred variation, pick up a light dumbbell, especially to start. Stand with your feet in a parallel stance about shoulder-width apart. Hold the dumbbell in a neutral place at your side, as if you would for a hammer curl. Place your free hand behind you, with the back of your hand on the small of your back ( you can also extend your off arm out to balance ). Next, bend over by pushing your butt back and hinging at your waist, with your knees slightly bent. There should be no rounding of the spine, and you should keep your gaze down at the floor in a neutral neck position. Lastly, as you’re hanging onto the dumbbell with your arm pointing to the floor, squeeze your shoulder blades together so your shoulders lock in place and don’t slump.
From this starting place, use your back to pull the dumbbell up without twisting your spine. Pull up as high as you can, pause for a moment at the top and squeeze your shoulder blades together even more. Then release by lowering the dumbbell back to the starting position. to control my pace, I usually pull up for 2 seconds, squeeze at the top for 2 seconds, then release back to the starting place in 2 seconds.
By doing the dumbbell row unilaterally ( one arm at a time ), you’ll feel yourself being pulled off balance. You must fight with your abs and obliques to maintain balance and stability, which is why I love this exercise so much. Although you won’t be able to load up with as much weight as you would using the bench for stabilization, the extra core work you’ll get makes this version well worth putting in your arsenal of exercises. Try 4 sets of 8 to 10 reps during upper body workouts to get started.
We all know that it’s common for men to skip the doctor until they become sick, injure themselves or are faced with a serious health problem. And a majority of men will postpone seeking care for a few days to see whether they feel any better. It’s the whole ' if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it ' line of thinking.
But there are steps the men in your life can take today to improve their vitality and help prevent health problems down the road. Of course, there are some things that can’t be changed, such as family history and age, but every day choices can have a big impact on their current and future health.
Eating a diet that’s low in fat ( less than 7 percent of calories should come from saturated fats ), cholesterol, and salt, and packed with fresh fruits and vegetables ( two cups of fruit per day; three cups of vegetables per day for men up to age 50 and two and a half cups for men aged 51 and over ), whole céréales and fiber can help improve your health, prevent heart disease, diabetes and certain cancers.
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Tobacco smoke contains more than 4, 000 chemicals and is a known cause of cancer. Smoking also increases the likelihood of high blood pressure, heart disease, lung problems and other health problems. And if you think chewing tobacco is safer, think again. Not only is chewing tobacco a known cause of cancer ( carcinogen ), it also contributes to gum disease and tooth loss and may be linked to fertility problems. And, few could argue that chewing and spitting is attractive to a partner. If you smoke or chew, talk to your health care professional about ways to quit. Consider nicotine replacement therapy products that include self-help programs, if appropriate.
Whether it’s pulling out the weed whacker, going for a bike ride or grilling with the neighbors, safety is key. Here are just a few examples : Take care when moving heavy objects. It’s easy to strain yourself when lifting boxes, furniture and other heavy items. Use your knees and legs and not your back for leverage. And ask for help, if you need it. Wear appropriate protective gear for your eyes and ears when using leaf blowers, lawn mowers and other machines at home or work. Excessive exposure to noise is the most common cause of hearing loss. Wear a helmet when you ride a bike or ski and throw on reflective clothing if you go for a run after dark. When grilling, never leave the grill unattended, especially when small children and pets are around, and keep a fire extinguisher handy. The grill should be at least 10 feet from your house or any building. to protect your skin, avoid prolonged exposure to the sun and apply ( and reapply ) sunscreen with an SPF of 15 or greater that provides protection against UVA and UVB rays.