Let's face it - this Thanksgiving is going to be tough.
On the one hand, most of us will not see our families in person due to the risk of the pandemic spreading with travel across the country. Sadly, more than 240,000 deaths from COVID-19 also means that many families will find it harder to feel grateful.
So do you know what we need? Something sweet, something traditional ... No, no sweet potato casserole ...
Remember Wanda Dench? In 2016, the grandmother went viral after accidentally texting someone she thought was her grandson about Thanksgiving dinner - someone who ended up being a complete stranger. However, when the adolescent Jamal Hinton replied kindly, she invited him anyway! And a new tradition was born!
They shared the exchange on the internet and the story quickly went viral as the world fell in love with this unlikely friendship.
Jamal has spent every Thanksgiving since with Wanda and her husband Lonnie. And seeing them every year has just been the cutest and most heartwarming thing.
Sadly, their makeshift family were among the thousands of victims of the pandemic. As you may have heard, in April, Wanda and Lonnie contracted the coronavirus - and Lonnie did not survive. Jamal shared the heartbreaking news on Instagram, writing:
“As some of you may have already found out tonight, Lonnie didn't make it ... he passed away on Sunday morning but Wanda told me that all the love and support he was getting put a huge smile on her face so I thank each of you guys. for that! "
Last month, Jamal addressed Thanksgiving, admitting it was in a very different light:
“Like I said on Twitter, this Thanksgiving and all the holidays ahead won't be the same as the previous ones, but we'll make the most of it. Rest in peace to Lonnie and all the others we have lost this year, you will be sorely missed. Thank you for being in our lives. "
But the tragedy wasn't going to stop the viral besties from sharing the vacations together. In a much smaller gathering, in accordance with COVID guidelines, Jamal and his girlfriend had their fifth dinner with Wanda over the weekend. The 63-year-old widow
Wanda told CNN of the celebration:
“I wasn't looking forward to the start because Lonnie wasn't going to be there. The last seven months have been so difficult, but it was really important to me.
And that was also important to Lonnie! As she explained The New York Times:
“My husband was always right behind me, telling me how proud he was of Jamal and me for what we did.
Oh man, we knew we were gonna need a handkerchief ...
It's a good thing they lived with it! Wanda told CNN that the stock market is healing after such a difficult year:
“I can't even explain how much fun I had to eat with my favorite company. We laughed, we had a great time, we remembered the past. It was so good for all of us.
Jamal, now 21, agreed, painting a picture of the poignant event:
“At first it was sad. We had a picture of Lonnie at the table with a burning candle, and we were all shaking at first, but it lasted five minutes before we met again. We just told jokes and stories and shared our memories of Lonnie so it was amazing.
We're so happy that they shared the beautiful tradition even in the darkest times - and that they shared it with us, brightening up our own vacations.
Our thanks go to you, Wanda and Jamal! And to Lonnie for being such an inspiration…
It might be a bit early, but Thanksgiving wouldn't be the same without Wanda & Jamal.
In 2016, they went viral when she accidentally texted him instead of her real grandson.
- Briana Whitney (@BrianaWhitney) November 21, 2020
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Are you single and looking for love ? Are you finding it to meet the right person ? When you’re having dysfonctionnement finding a love connection, it’s all too easy to become discouraged or buy into the destructive myths out there about dating and relationships.
Life as a solo person offers many rewards, such as being free to pursue your own hobbies and interests, learning how to enjoy your own company, and appreciating the quiet moments of retraite. However, if you’re ready to share your life with someone and want to build a lasting, worthwhile relationship, life as a solo person can also seem frustrating
For many of us, our emotional baggage can make finding the right romantic partner a difficult journey. Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists. Or maybe your dating history consists only of brief flings and you don’t know how to make a relationship last. You could be attracted to the wrong type of person or keep making the same bad choices over and over, due to an unresolved venant from your past. Or maybe you’re not putting yourself in the best environments to meet the right person, or that when you do, you don’t feel confident enough.
Never be ashamed of who you are. Never. Likability starts with liking yourself. Be your weird, imperfect self. Set your values and stay true to yourself. Be proud of your individuality. People often hide themselves because they are afraid of rejection. But they forget that they don’t need acceptance from everyone. All you need to find are the right people who embrace who you are. And when you aren’t afraid to show yourself, it’s easier to find such people.
Get over your nature, personality, shyness, ignorance, ego or whatever and initiate. When you initiate, you show you’re bulletproof of rejection, which shows your confidence. When you want to practice your social skills, act before you can think. Say something within 5 seconds. Even if the conversation becomes a big failure, practice your courage and your spirit of action. Become an initiator and approach people. You never know where your future friends are hiding.
Many people spend an entire day without smiling. While I’m not asking you to put a fake smile all the time, you must find reasons to smile every day. You will only find reasons when you look for them. And meeting a person is a good one. A smile gives a good impression, and it is likely to pass to the other person.
It’s common advice to show interest in people’s life, passions, goals, and everything else they have to say. But nobody tells you how to become genuinely interested in the other person. There are three confidentiels to it : Treat people like celebrities. Find what you can learn from them. Everyone has knowledge, experiences, and possibilités you don’t have. Find how you can help them.
When you meet people for the first time, you know nothing about them. So, it ends up being an awkward introduction or a small talk on a random topic. You can do better than that. Notice the words or actions of the other person and make assumptions about other people’s interests. Then, give clues when it’s your turn to talk. If the other person gives a response, you got it right. If however, the person shows no response, try the next technique on the list.
No, I’m not talking about questions like — “How are you doing ? ”, “How’s your day going ? ” or “The weather is too cold ( or hot ), isn’t it ? ”Instead, ask strange questions. They give other people an opportunity to open up. Strange questions can be funny, weird, creative, specific or different in any other way. Just make sure you ask open-ended questions ( don’t ask yes or no questions ).
Every time you open your mouth, it’s an opportunity for you to find common interests or values. Without common ground, it’s to build a strong relationship with the other person.
When you answer, give hints on what you value, what you like, what assumptions you have made, where you want the conversation to go, or open new possibilities by asking questions. If you don’t find common ground, go back to the 4th point and get interested in them.
Ask for people’s advice on something you’re struggling with or an opinion on a subject ( but avoid controversial topics ). And if you truly like someone’s advice, take it, use it and let them know how it went for you. Don’t forget to thank them. When they speak, figure out their beliefs, values and the way they think. They may even share their stories or give clues about their interests. This gives them a chance to open up which brings me to the next point.
If you open up too much in the beginning, you may push people away. And if you don’t open up at all, you won’t build a strong connection with the other person. Some people don’t mind opening up while others like to trust before they open up. If the other person is too shy to open up, take the lead and give some intimate details about you or share a story. Before opening up any further, let the other person talk. Give them space to share themselves. When you both become vulnerable, the foundation of a new relationship is laid.
People won’t open up in front of you unless they feel comfortable. to make them feel comfortable, get comfortable yourself and give them reasons to trust you. First, relax and get in an open body language. Then, provide trust by providing value and aligning your words with actions