Last week I wrote a letter to the outgoing president titled A letter for the outgoing president. It only seemed appropriate to write one for Joe Biden as it is infinitely unlikely that there would be one waiting for him in his desk drawer on 01/20/2021 left by the current occupant of the Oval Office as is customary. Even two weeks after the results were announced declaring Joe Biden and Kamala Harris president-elect and vice-president-elect, the 45th to wear those titles continues to promulgate lies and spread fear as thick and Nutella on whole grain toast ( but not at all sweet or filling). Lawsuits after trial and roadblocks after roadblocks are destroyed and yet, dangerously polarize an already divided country. 75% of those who voted for another four years of chaos, admitted believing the election was stolen by these unscrupulous Democrats. Pro-Trump rallies (also known as irresponsible super-spreading events) continue, further fueling hatred and inciting violence. I am comforted by the number of Republicans who are beginning to speak out and dismayed by those whose silence denotes a complicity, fueled by their fear of punishment. What about the Constitution and the people they have sworn to protect and defend? How do they sleep at night and cope with their children and grandchildren whose future is threatened?
To the letter…
Dear Mr. President:
I've been referring to you this way since you won the Democratic nomination. I applauded and cried, knowing that you would be the unifying force that could help mend the tear that has torn our nation apart over the past four years. I was not mistaken in thinking that you could be expected to do it alone. I was comforted that you asked Kamala Harris to be your running mate and she wholeheartedly agreed. I saw that this alliance with someone who had presented you with challenges as a candidate herself meant that you could rise to the occasion and find commonalities with those whose ideologies might differ from yours. I loved watching the easy bond between you and the partnership you each have with your spouses who were not just backstage cheerleaders but a visible presence on the campaign trail.
Campaign signs were planted in my yard and a sign on my dash after a Ridin 'With Biden' rally in Doylestown, PA. Both are there to this day. As much as I wanted, I refrained from attending any in-person events as I had promised my son and daughter-in-law, as their health and safety and that of my now aged grandson. 10 months are precious. When the pandemic began, 11 weeks passed before I could see them. Now I babysit four mornings a week. We, her parents and her sister are in the babysitting bubble. We will be the ones to spend Thanksgiving together since we are bonded by baby slime.
I offer daily prayers for your success and I have your photos and campaign stickers placed on the altars of my house as reinforcement. I firmly believe in the power of intention.
I sat down, night after night, with a jerky, gasping heartbeat, watching CNN and MSNBC reporters offer their commentary. Fear and faith lived side by side. On election night, I sat down with friends on a Zoom call counting the votes as they came in from each state. I did it until 2 a.m. with a little faith restored. I scrambled the next day at work. I am one of the lucky ones who can work from home, as a therapist offering telehealth sessions. The election was a topic of conversation in our sessions as their anxiety was sometimes through the roof. Some voted for you and some for the incumbent. I needed to save space and be compassionate with everyone, knowing that when the final votes were counted I would pick up pieces for some of them.
Even now, two weeks into the process, I am grateful that you and Vice President Harris are doing your best to prepare for your transition, without taking the bait from the man who is doing his worst to maintain power to his own infamous. the reasons.
I anticipate another joy of joyous dancing when the final results are confirmed by the Electoral College and yet another on the day of the inauguration. This is where the work intensifies. I consider you to be the Great Unifier. I don't need to worry about your compassion. I don't have to worry about your resilience. I don't have to worry about your work ethic. I don't have to worry about your ability to cross the aisle to get the job done.
I intend to stand by the campaign promises you made, especially to communities of color, including Native Americans who have come in droves to support your election. I intend to hold you accountable for the campaign promises you have made to fight the COVID-19 pandemic. I intend to hold you accountable for your position with the LGBTQ + community. I intend to hold you accountable for the promises you made regarding the climate crisis. I know you face a formidable opponent in the current administration, so determined to make your job as difficult as possible. I also know that your determination to bring us together will allow you to succeed. As a person of faith myself, I know yours will help you continue.
As an advocate and activist for peace and social justice, I use my presence to show myself, stand up and speak. I stand by your side as you and Vice President Harris undertake this monumental task.
Bless you, Joe and Kamala.
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There are versions of the exercise where you see guys use a bench for support, using a hand or even placing a knee on the bench. These have their merits ( although MH fitness director Ebenezer Samuel, C. S. C. S. would rather you not put a knee up ). However, I mostly do the version with no assistance from the bench with both feet on the ground as points of contact. This version works your traps, rhomboids, rear delts and rotator cuff zones musculaires, but you also get some core work, something you greatly need as you get older. Remember, though, that the way do the exercise is subjective to your own abilities. If you need some extra support for balance, don’t hesitate to put a hand down.
to set up for my preferred variation, pick up a light dumbbell, especially to start. Stand with your feet in a parallel stance about shoulder-width apart. Hold the dumbbell in a neutral position at your side, as if you would for a hammer curl. Place your free hand behind you, with the back of your hand on the small of your back ( you can also extend your off arm out to balance ). Next, bend over by pushing your butt back and hinging at your waist, with your knees slightly bent. There should be no rounding of the spine, and you should keep your gaze down at the floor in a neutral neck place. Lastly, as you’re hanging onto the dumbbell with your arm pointing to the floor, squeeze your shoulder blades together so your shoulders lock in place and don’t slump.
From this starting place, use your back to sweat the dumbbell up without twisting your spine. Pull up as high as you can, pause for a moment at the top and squeeze your shoulder blades together even more. Then release by lowering the dumbbell back to the starting position. to control my pace, I usually pull up for 2 seconds, squeeze at the top for 2 seconds, then release back to the starting place in 2 seconds.
By doing the dumbbell row unilaterally ( one arm at a time ), you’ll feel yourself being pulled off balance. You must fight with your abs and obliques to maintain balance and stability, which is why I love this exercise so much. Although you won’t be able to load up with as much weight as you would using the bench for stabilization, the extra core work you’ll get makes this version well worth putting in your arsenal of exercises. Try 4 sets of 8 to 10 reps during upper body workouts to get started.
We all know that it’s common for men to skip the doctor until they become sick, injure themselves or are faced with a serious health problem. And a majority of men will postpone seeking care for a few days to see whether they feel any better. It’s the whole ' if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it ' line of thinking.
But there are steps the men in your life can take today to improve their vitality and help prevent health problems down the road. Of course, there are some things that can’t be changed, such as family history and age, but every day choices can have a big impact on their current and future health.
Eating a diet that’s low in fat ( less than 7 percent of calories should come from saturated fats ), cholesterol, and salt, and packed with fresh fruits and vegetables ( two cups of fruit per day; three cups of vegetables per day for men up to age 50 and two and a half cups for men aged 51 and over ), whole céréales and fiber can help improve your health, prevent heart disease, diabetes and certain cancers.
Try to get 30 minutes of moderate physical activity on most days of the week. Taking a walk, jogging, swimming and mowing the lawn all count. But don’t be a weekend sports warrior. Start slowly if you aren’t normally réactive and gradually build up. No time ? Research shows that even bermuda bursts of physical activity—as few as 10 minutes of intense activity several times a day—can help men improve their health. Talk to your doctor about the right exercise program for you.
It’s important to maintain a saine weight. Excess weight, especially around the waist, can be on your body. Carrying too much body fat forces your heart to work harder and increases your probabilités of heart disease and stroke, even if you have no other risk factors ! So, try to curb weight gain as you age.
Tobacco smoke contains more than 4, 000 chemicals and is a known cause of cancer. Smoking also increases the likelihood of high blood pressure, heart disease, lung problems and other health problems. And if you think chewing tobacco is safer, think again. Not only is chewing tobacco a known cause of cancer ( carcinogen ), it also contributes to gum disease and tooth loss and may be linked to fertility problems. And, few could argue that chewing and spitting is attractive to a partner. If you smoke or chew, talk to your health care professional about ways to quit. Consider nicotine replacement therapy products that include self-help programs, if appropriate.
Whether it’s pulling out the weed whacker, going for a bike ride or grilling with the neighbors, safety is key. Here are just a few examples : Take care when moving heavy objects. It’s easy to strain yourself when lifting boxes, furniture and other heavy items. Use your knees and legs and not your back for leverage. And ask for help, if you need it. Wear appropriate protective gear for your eyes and ears when using leaf blowers, lawn mowers and other machines at home or work. Excessive exposure to noise is the most common cause of hearing loss. Wear a helmet when you ride a bike or ski and throw on reflective clothing if you go for a run after dark. When grilling, never leave the grill unattended, especially when small children and pets are around, and keep a fire extinguisher handy. The grill should be at least 10 feet from your house or any building. to protect your skin, avoid prolonged exposure to the sun and apply ( and reapply ) sunscreen with an SPF of 15 or greater that provides protection against UVA and UVB rays.