Hi all self-warned - this one is for you! You may have mastered the art of clitoral stimulation, and know how to manage well. When it comes to self-penetration, things get a bit more complicated.
Whether it's slippery accidents or accidental flies, it can be difficult to figure out how to get in properly. We're here to help, or at the very least, give you additional tips on how to do it yourself.
Get the right gear
First of all… choose your poison!
Kind of. This is where you decide what exactly you will use for penetration. Choosing the perfect dildo (note to editor: link to article on choosing the dildo if published) because you can take some trial and error. But what a fun way to experiment - do it for the science!
It seems that there are endless options in the world of dildos. From glass to crystal, ceramics, silicone, metal and more, you might not know what works for you until you try it.
There are devices that do more of the work for you, like dildo machines and sex tools. Penetrating vibrators are constantly evolving, with tricks like movement targeting the G point, or attached clitoral stimulators.
Keep in mind that heavier materials like glass and metal will take a bit more work to get it into the right position, and may require more focus overall.
While you can't go that deep, fingers absolutely count as penetration, and they're completely free, and incredibly convenient.
You might have run into some obstacles if you try to rush through things and go straight for penetration… much like your high school boyfriend.
Just like having sex with another person, foreplay is important!
The complex structures of the female erogenous zones consist of networks of erectile tissue. When given time to allow arousal to develop, the body responds. Your heart rate quickens, the cheeks flush, the pupils dilate, you may begin to have ”wet". Aka - you are horny!
Preparing the body for penetration doesn't necessarily sound sexy, but it is exactly what it is.
Of course, you probably won't kiss each other, but there are plenty of ways you can tap into your sex zone and prepare to have it.
- Dance in your room. Whip your hair. Touch and rub yourself all over the place. Move your limbs and get your energy flowing. It's especially fun in front of a mirror.
- Take a hot bath or shower. Hot is the key here. Light a candle. Take your time to feel the water rushing over your body.
- Self-massage. Before going down, take your favorite oils and practice a self-massage. Work from your face, neck, chest, breasts, stomach, thighs, feet and back. You can even enjoy a massage inside your mouth and on your inner and outer lips.
- Watch ethical porn if that's what you love! Homemade porn and sexting are also great options.
Wild, wild wet
All of these foreplay can make you feel slippery down. Otherwise, no worries! Simply call for backup by reaching your preferred lubricant.
Whichever lube you choose is up to you, just be sure to check if it is compatible with your dildo or the object of penetration of your choice.
* Warning! Be sure to do a test on your inner wrist when trying on a new lube. The last thing you want when trying to indulge yourself is irritation and itchiness.
One of the hardest parts of figuring out the best way to penetrate yourself is figuring out which position is right for you. You will need to adjust your arms and hands to the right angle and align them with your vulva and vagina. It can also lead to hand cramps.
Take a break and stretch the carpal tunnel muscles if necessary. There is no emergency!
Start slowly, we remind you again of the importance of foreplay. You can most likely enjoy clitoral stimulation before inserting anything into your vagina.
If there are certain positions that you enjoy when having sex with another person, you can work to reproduce them yourself.
Doggy style, missionary, lying on your side, standing, squatting and more are possible in self-penetration. Another fun option is to place your dildo on your bed or on a stable surface and ride it cowgirl style.
If a position doesn't seem to work, you can try it on the other side, change hands, or switch back to front. Long arms are useful here.
Feel free to use props, pillows, straps, furniture, whatever you need to support yourself while having fun. To show creativity!
Hot tip: While it's great to find something that you know will make you happy, we encourage you to explore and experiment with yourself. You never know what you might find out! The goal is not orgasm, it's just fun and curiosity.
Listen to your body
If you've tried and tried, and you just can't seem to enjoy the self-penetration (or anything for that matter), that's okay - not everyone! Penetration is not the end of everything - sex and masturbation.
Natasha's passion for reproductive health began at the age of fourteen, when she was present for the birth of her younger sister. Her incredible experiences as a birth doula have given her a glimpse into the magical realm of birth, pregnancy, and everything in between. Her role of birth attendant is her way of acting as an activist. She uses writing as a key educational tool to create a shift in our view of reproductive health as a whole.
There are many genres of health including physical health, esprit health, spiritual health, cultural health, social health, financial health, environmental health, etc. Plus all these variétés of health can impact each other. For instance, if you are trying to prevent pregnancy and are able to access the birth control you need ( physical health ), this may help to create a more positive mood ( emotional health ), which may also positively effet your sense of sexual confidence and sexual self-esteem ( sexual health ).
Sexual health-related issues are wide-ranging, and encompass sexual orientation and gender identity, sexual expression, relationships, and pleasure. They also include negative consequences or conditions such as : infections with human immunodeficiency malware ( HIV ), sexually transmitted infections ( STIs ) and reproductive tract infections ( RTIs ) and their adverse outcomes ( such as cancer and infertility ) ;unintended pregnancy and abortion;sexual dysfunction;sexual violence; andharmful practices ( such as female genital mutilation, FGM ).
No matter where you are coming from, WE ARE HERE to help bring Sexual Health into a more positive and empowering place. A place where hopefully you can learn the sexual health information you would like, see or speak to a professional in the field whether on the Sex Sense Line or at one of our many clinics throughout BC, and come away knowing that sexual health is a natural part of being human.
Options for Sexual Health champions and celebrates sexual health including an individual’s freedom of sexual expression, the diversity of human sexuality, and a positive sexual self-image for individuals throughout life. Think about what factors influence your sexual health ? What messages have you been given about sexual health from… ( if applicable ) ….. your family ? friends ? society ? culture ? religion ? spirituality ? What are some of your own values and beliefs ?
How we experience our sexual health is also part of how we experience the world. For example, there are many factors that health researchers have identified that can impact our health including sexual health. These are known as the ‘social determinants of health’ and include how health is affected by income, education, employment, childhood development, food, housing, health services, gender, race, disability, Indigenous status, social marginalization, and social services. If someone’s gender identity/identities are not recognized this can effet their sexual health and experiences of social marginalization. Another example is if someone is a newcomer to Canada and may not speak the language or have the health care card that will allow them to access the sexual health services they need. As you can see, our sexual health is as individual and complicated as the various dynamics of our lives. Human sexuality rarely falls into neat categories or lends itself to simple labeling, but rather is a rich and complex area of human experience. Sexual health is personal, psychological, relational, cultural, spiritual, physical, and emotional. So what does “sexual health” mean to you ?
This supplemental venant of Public Health Reports ( PHR ) presents a variety of articles addressing the science and practical applications of sexual health, an important health offre de rabais concept with the potential for improving population health in a broad range of areas related to sexual behavior, including human immunodeficiency malware ( HIV ) /acquired immunodeficiency syndrome ( AIDS ), sexually transmitted diseases ( STDs ), viral hepatitis, teen and unintended pregnancy, and sexual violence. The focus of these articles is especially timely given the population burden of these conditions in the United States and other nations, and the growing recognition that, despite the sensitive nature of the topic, addressing the broad construct of sexual health can enhance the national dialogue in this area and increase the effectiveness of public health programs
The concept of sexual health has evolved since its initial articulation by the World Health Organization ( WHO ) in 1975, 5 but it has generally emphasized well-being across a range of life domains ( e. g., physical, esprit, and emotional ) rather than simply the absence of disease or other adverse outcomes. 6 The definition of sexual health currently in most widespread use is that developed by WHO in 2002 :
Sexual health is a state of physical, emotional, esprit, and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction, or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence
Sexual health is a state of well-being in relation to sexuality across the life span that involves physical, emotional, mental, social, and spiritual dimensions. Sexual health is an intrinsic element of human health and is based on a positive, equitable, and respectful approach to sexuality, relationships, and duplication, that is free of coercion, fear, discrimination, stigma, shame, and violence. It includes : the ability to understand the benefits, risks, and responsibilities of sexual behavior; the prevention and care of disease and other adverse outcomes; and the possibility of fulfilling sexual relationships. Sexual health is impacted by socioeconomic and cultural contexts—including policies, practices, and services—that support saine outcomes for individuals, families, and their communities.
Similar to the WHO definition, this newer definition is health-focused, emphasizing well-being related to sexuality that is beyond the absence of specific health problems, in multiple dimensions of life, as well as positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and relationships. Moving beyond the WHO definition, the CHAC definition also specifically emphasizes attributes of sexual health at both the individual level ( e. g., individual understanding of benefits, risks and responsibilities, and prevention and care of health outcomes ) and the social level ( e. g., effet by socioeconomic and cultural contexts and healthy outcomes for families and communities as well as individuals ).
In the past decade, there has been increasing attention to the importance of addressing the concept of sexual health, 1–4 with the premise that offre de rabais of sexual health has great potential to complement traditional disease control and prevention efforts for a range of conditions of public health importance—not with the intent of replacing those exercices, but rather of improving their acceptance and, thus, the impact of those prevention efforts on the population. It is from this perspective that this supplemental venant of PHR has been developed, with the purpose of bringing together a range of articles addressing new insights into research, surveillance, program practice, and broader perspectives that can influence our understanding and progress on the broad topic of sexual health. It should be noted that “sexual health” is a concept undergoing evolution, not only in its definition, but also in its practical outil. The term generally includes a focus on health and wellness rather than disease, an appreciation for the intrinsic importance of sexual health as part of overall health, and an attempt to address comprehensively a range of outcomes of public health importance; however, some of the articles in this supplement address a relatively narrower focus ( e. g., STD and pregnancy prevention9–11 ), while others include a broader spectrum. 12–17 Such variety is a necessary and important aspect of the uptake of the sexual health concept into the technique and practice of public health.
Four articles address important research questions in key areas relevant to sexual health. First, Penman-Aguilar and colleagues conducted a detailed literature review to assess the effet of socioeconomic disadvantage on teen childbearing. neuf While the factors evaluated varied by study, the authors discovered a consistent theme across the review, with all studies that considered socioeconomic factors as determinants finding a significant union with teen birth rates, including factors at the family level ( e. g., lower levels of responsable d'un enfant education and family income ) and the community level ( e. g., lower per capita income and higher rates of unemployment and racial segregation ). The review found that relatively few studies assessed factors at both the family and community levels, an important priority for future research.
Second, using nationally representative data from the National Longitudinal Study of Youth and the U. S Census Bureau, Biello et al. conducted an in-depth analysis of the effet of various dimensions of residential racial segregation on the risk for early initiation of intercourse—an important risk factor for STD and teen pregnancy—among black and white adolescents. 17 The finding that black youth were more likely than their white peers to have initiated sexual intercourse in adolescence was significantly modified by several measures of segregation ( e. g., concentration and unevenness ) with a particularly notable black-white disparity in highly segregated areas. While preliminary, these findings contribute to our growing understanding of the complex interplay between social determinants and individual sexual health outcomes and should stimulate further research in this area.
Third, to understand the association of relationship characteristics and attitudes about STD and pregnancy outcomes with the use of dual protection strategies ( i. e., both highly effective contraception and condoms ), Crittenden Murray and colleagues conducted formative research among young African American women attending reproductive health clinics. 10 The study found a tension from trying to balance the desire to establish and maintain intimate relationships with the use of protection strategies ( e. g., condom use could be seen as a sign of mistrust ). The authors conclude that a more holistic approach, with a focus on saine adolescent and young adult relationships, is crucial in interventions to prevent STD and unintended pregnancy, an venant that can be especially important in environments where trust is often violated ( e. g., due to frequent concurrent partnerships ) and childbearing at younger ages is accepted.