5 Signs Which Show That You Have Matured
A question that arises in various situations is how exactly to define maturity? What are the things that separate a mature individual from others? The days of age and finances telling us whether someone has matured or not are long gone. Today 19-year-olds run million-dollar businesses and 40-year-olds live paycheck to paycheck. It turns out […]

A question that arises in various situations is how exactly to define maturity? What are the things that separate a mature individual from others?

The days of age and finances telling us whether someone has matured or not are long gone. Today 19-year-olds run million-dollar businesses and 40-year-olds live paycheck to paycheck. It turns out that finances and age do not correlate with a person's maturity. We also have a lot of 22 year old millionaires who go bankrupt at 25.

So what are the factors that we should consider as a new benchmark? Is it about mental health, about family or just about an individual's character? What exactly sets a mature individual apart from the crowd?

Psychologically speaking, it is very difficult to draw a conclusion just by observation. There is almost nothing that can be inferred from the maturity of someone on the outside. A well-behaved individual can go crazy when the ball goes out of their playing area, that is, when things go from order to chaos. Likewise, a seemingly brave man might be the first to run when in danger.

Dan Ariely, along with his colleagues, has conducted impressive experiments to show the effects of extreme emotions on a person's behavior. His detailed studies were published in his book Predictable irrational but the main thing is that a person himself cannot predict how he will act in extreme situations. Now, if a person themselves didn't know this, what are the chances that someone outside could predict it?

If we can't deduce anything from the outside and most of what we know about ourselves is probably wrong (based on Dan Ariely's observations), how do we know our level of maturity?

Carl Jung might have something for this question.

Jung came up with one of the most credible solutions based on his model of the human psyche.
In his own words,

The only way to live a healthy life is to assimilate the Shadow into our personality.

Simply put, assimilating your shadow means that we just need to be aware of our desires and values, not only what's in front of our mind, but the deep ones as well. Because it is our desires and our values ​​embedded in the shadows that drive our emotions and our intuitions.

And this assimilation is what is called maturity.

Now the question arises, how do we know that we are on the right track to reach this maturity?

Here are the five signs people feel when trying to equate their shadows with their personalities.

1. The war between your emotions and your logical decisions begins to disappear.

Most of the decision-making mistakes we make are due to the desynchronization between our emotions and our logic, whether in work, relationship, family, etc. The main reason behind this is that the source of your emotions and your logical decisions is different.

Your logic comes from the conscious part of your mind, which you accept and acknowledge. But your emotions and intuitions come from the depths of your psyche, which you are probably not even aware of.

But when you mature and start to assimilate your shadow to your personality, you will find that these tugs diminish. This is because your emotions and decisions are now coming from the same part of your mind, the new assimilated part.

2. A better understanding of your potential.

Assimilation also leads to a better knowledge of your own potential, as you are now aware of the part that has been kept hidden in your own mind.

A good example of this is a soldier who had been in a war. If you ever meet such a person, you can feel the difference between him and others. You can feel that he knows how to act civilized and smile, but you will also feel that if someone crosses a line, they also know how to deal with it. He's someone who has assimilated his horrible side into his personality. As a result, he's now more aware of his potential to do bad things (for lack of a better term), because that's what he's been doing on the battlefield.

It's not always the assimilation of negative parts, there are also positive things that appear with it. The dragon always comes with gold, and vice versa.

3. Decreased procrastination.

This follows from the first point. If someone has incorporated their shadow, they will become aware of their true desires and values, which may be different from what they previously believed.

Procrastination occurs when we try to avoid a task for instant gratification. But as you mature you will understand why something is important and why it needs to be done and then procrastination will automatically decrease.

4. Stability in the face of external events.

There are a lot of things that happen in our daily life, and we can't control a lot of it. These are the situations that worry us because deep down we doubt whether we are ready to face them or not.

But once you integrate your shadow with your personality, you will develop a better understanding of your potential and your limitations, then it will become much easier to cope with these events. Because one thing people have discovered after learning their shadow is that they are capable of more than they thought they were.

5. Better sorting of priorities.

Unsurprisingly, if you know and accept your potential and your limitations, and understand your desires and values, you will be able to make transparent decisions. Transparent here doesn't mean you have to make it transparent to the outside world, but transparent to yourself.

When most people make a decision, they aren't sure because one party tells them to do one thing, and other parties want to do something else.

But once you have matured, you can make any decision much more clearly because you now have a better understanding of your priorities.

Final thoughts

As we see, maturity is not about your economic situation or your age, or how you act in your comfort zone.

A real way to know if you are mature or not, or if you are on the right track is to check if

  1. Your decisions and your emotions become one
  2. You now have a better understanding of your potential
  3. Your procrastination decreases
  4. You now have better control over unexpected situations
  5. Your priorities are now clarified

And the way to achieve these results is to equate your shadow with your personality.

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